Why is premarital sex wrong? I know "The bible says so" but why? Would you buy a house without seeing the inside first? Sex is a very important aspect of any relationship, if its bad or you aren't on the same page, things go downhill real fast. And its not something you can just "pray" away, differing sexual aspects are the nature of humans and in most cases cannot be changed. What do you do if you marry someone who simply cannot satisfy you sexually? What if you can't satisfy him/her either?
2006-10-03 05:21:44 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
BECAUSE GOD SAID SO!!
2006-10-03 05:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Monique 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If people would take enough time to really get to know the person they are going to marry then they should be able to discuss everything. I think a person's chastity is a precious gift not to be given away to just anyone who makes you feel the urge. We are supposed to be better than the animals that we are to be guardian over. And if you know the person sufficiently to love them in all other ways then the sexual end of it should be wonderful as well. I say that because as I mentioned before, there should be nothing you cannot tell the other half of yourself. So if on your wedding night you would like to try something, you should be able to ask. And if the first time is not what is it all cracked up to be then you communicate that to your spouse and you can find other things to try. There are no boundaries between man and wife as to what kind of things and positions they cannot try, you just have to be willing to wait for the person you feel like you can communicate that well with. Communication is the only way to keep a marriage working anyway. If you cannot tell the other person what you like and dislike in every arena then you did not communicate well enough before the marriage. People should marry for the right reason and today they don't. It is so easy to marry in haste and divorce at your leisure that marriage has become a passe institution to many. I think that is a sad note for humanity. We have become no better than the hippos that runt during their season with whomever they will. Why do you think we cannot get rid of or at least hinder new versions of all of the STD's that are out today? When you sleep with someone you are sleeping with everyone they have ever slept with.
2006-10-03 05:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you never have sex before marriage, you don't have anything to compare it against, so how would you know the sex is bad?
The point is, when you have sex, you become united, not only in the flesh, but there is a spiritual dimension. God says " He answered them, "Haven't you read that the one who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female' and said, 'That is why a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must never separate." (Matthew 19:4-6)
Biblically, when a couple copulated, the marriage was consummated. When the union is destroyed, it is much like an amputation. You are losing part of yourself.
It is the same when you indulge in fornication. You are giving of yourself to another. If you keep giving yourself to others in this way, the meaning of it all diminishes.
Like a piece of tape that is stuck to a wall will hold well, as long as you don't pull it off, so is the sexual relationship. If you pull the tape away, and then try to apply it again, it doesn't hold as well. After removing it again, and then reapplying it, it loses its ability to stick.
When you go from sexual relationship to sexual relationship, the sex becomes the end all, be all. The intimacy between the couple doesn't "stick" anymore. You then degenerate from being man created in God's image, to a dog sniffing for a mate in heat.
It is disgraceful, and demeaning of the true intimacy that God has for you. We cheapen His grace every time we stray from that perfect path.
2006-10-03 05:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex has nothing to do with relationships. People have sex every day with people they hate. Rape is one of our biggest crimes. Our society has traded intimacy for "blowing off steam."
If one hopes to build a lasting relationship, one must first determine if a proposed partner is long term material. Build a friendship, have most excellent communication. The longer it takes, the longer it will last.
We skip friendship these days and go straight for treating each other like tread mills and Stair Masters. That is not love. That is not intimacy. That is not a relationship.
If we have a deep and lasting friendship - true partners, real buddies - then nothing can shake our foundation. Illness, calamity, nothing. We can see it through.
The feeling of "being in love" is a chemical reaction that lasts about 6 months. That's why our divorce rate is so high. We feel "in love" we have great sex, we run off to Las Vegas and get married in Elvis's Chapel of the Blue Suede Shoes.
And then everything fizzles.
We may try to limp it along for awhile. But in the end. Split City.
If we are pure, treat our proposed partner well, with respect and kindness - if we build a great foundation - we have found TRUE intimacy.
People with a sound foundation of friendship, of companionship sail smoothly during those times when the feeling of "being in love" wanes. It does come back. Due to some intimate moment. A look in the eye, a laugh, a shared moment. It last another 6 months then wanes again. Through out years if you let it.
That's why premarital sex is looked down on. It clouds our hearts and minds with a simple and very short lived physical satisfaction. It is not "real." Those marriages don't last.
If you have a deep and meaningful partnership - then conversation about any topic is easy. If one partner isn't being satisfied physically, there is no problem with discussing it. Openly. Lovingly. Creatively!!! It is a Thousand Times easier to talk about creative outlets for sex when one has good communication with one's partner.
You are right. You can't always pray those feelings away. Sometimes another outlet is necessary. Jogging. Cycling. Basketball. Some other venue.
I can't tell you how many couples I know, right now, who are miserable. Married or otherwise commited only due to "great sex." Then, generally speaking, really don't like their partner very much. Which leads to cheating. Why not just leave? I can't fathom...
2006-10-03 05:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not only a physical bonding but it is also suppose to be a spiritual bonding. When you bond two things together and then try to tear them apart you end up damaging both items.
When two people are bonded in this special way it is God's desire that they are bonded for life. Tearing them apart actually damages the soul. This is not the Father's will for your life.
I have experienced as well as seen what happens to people when they have been physically intimate with someone and then it doesn't work out. There is pain and regret. The sad thing is for some people there is no pain and regret because their heart and soul isn't close enough to God to realize what a gift physical intimacy is to a couple and instead they just see it a no big deal kind of thing.
2006-10-03 07:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by James C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has made sex a priveldge for marriage only because it means more. Sex is supposed to be a way to draw the couple closer, but if each have already had sex with dozens of other people, it loses its meaning. What leads people to not satisfy each other sexually is when they remember past relationships where the sex was better. This is why statistics show that premarital sex and living together before mariage only raise the divorce rate. .Secondly, because God said so
2006-10-03 05:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When God tells people not to do something he does it for our own protection. It takes doesn't take much time to realize that when we do our own thing there is a price to pay. Unwanted pregnancy is one big thing. Diseases are a second. But also an attitude of just trying people out and moving along when they no longer satisfy us. God wants us to have a loving committed relationship not based solely on our selfish desire. Also people are not houses they have feelings and unlike homes feel used if the potential buyer tries them out. Finally once you start down this road what guarantee that slipping a ring on someones finger is going to end the test drive mentality. Some say so what if a baby is born out of marriage. Statistically they suffer disadvantage. It's also better t marry someone becasue you love them not because they feel oblidged to or because they may be sued for alimony if they don't. People really need to think of what's good for others not just a quick feel good. Also aids is still on the increase condom's don't always work. If you really claim to love the other person would you not be concerned with their welfare as well as your own?
2006-10-03 05:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Edward J 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex should be only between a married couple. It shows that you loved a person enough to wait and not spread your love around cheaply. Besides, if the woman got pregnant, a married couple has an easier advantage for caring for the child then a single mother or teenager (as there are some who start having sex while in school)
2006-10-03 05:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by sister steph 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that situation is covered by the marriage vows - in good times and in bad, for better or for worse. If you can't make those vows and mean them, you have no right marrying. Besides, shacking up for a while with no real commitment doesn't teach a person anything about marriage, as demonstrated by the fact that couples who have premarital sex have a significantly higher rate of divorce than couples who wait.
2006-10-03 06:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask a very good question. The answers given so far focus on the biblical directive against pre-marital sex, but I suspect you want more. I would say that when two people decide to have sex, in most (not all, obviously) cases it ratchets their relationship up a notch. At that point, if the relationship ceases to exist, the odds of one or both partners being emotionally hurt are much greater than if they had not shared such intimacy.
From a religious-biblical point of view, there are a lot of things that are "laws" in the Old Testament that we break today without even thinking about it: we don't sell our daughters into slavery, we don't put a man to death for "touching" a woman during her period, etc. God is a forgiving and loving God; if two people are emotionally mature enough to handle a sexual relationship without benefit of marriage, I think God is big enough to love them both.
2006-10-03 05:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Stranger In The Night 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Young people today need to be taught to abstain from sexual intercourse and remain pure virgins before marriage. So many problems in marriages today stem from the fact that they are not virgins when they marry. Young people are bringing wounded emotions and diseased bodies into their marriages because of prior promiscuous affairs. STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) are so widespread that the statistics are shocking. There are 12 million new cases of STDs annually in the United states and 67% of these occur among persons under the age of 25. In fact, every year one out of six teens contracts an STD. 100,000 to 150,000 women become infertile each year as a result of STDs.¹ Others endure years of pain as some of these diseases are incurable. What a tragic price to pay for sexual sins. The Bible is right when it says fornication is a sin against one's own body.
The sin of fornication is not only defined as illicit sexual intercourse between those who are not married but also is an umbrella for other sexual sins as well. The Bible also speaks of the sin of incest as fornication in 1 Corinthians 5:1:
2006-10-03 05:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by ca_rissa3505 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋