Why is premarital sex wrong? I know "The bible says so" but why? Would you buy a house without seeing the inside first? Sex is a very important aspect of any relationship, if its bad or you aren't on the same page, things go downhill real fast. And its not something you can just "pray" away, differing sexual aspects are the nature of humans and in most cases cannot be changed. What do you do if you marry someone who simply cannot satisfy you sexually? What if you can't satisfy him/her either?
2006-10-03 05:19:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
every time you mastrubate, God kills a kitten
2006-10-03 05:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Coacoa Mama ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
SEX,SEX,SEX, that is all I hear you saying. Sex is your priority. If you base a relationship strictly on sex you're in a bad way, Dude.
If you're having problems satisfying your mate sexually get some counseling. I know people who had that very problem, got the counseling and now enjoy a full life with each other, 32 years of marriage.
If all that you are basing your relationship on is sex I can guarantee you that you are not going to be satisfied for long. It will get old and you will seek another partner. Too bad for you. Try following God's plan for marriage and you will know satisfaction like you never imagined.
The plan is in the Bible. Check it out.
2006-10-03 05:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by BP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian that had premarital sex with someone he never married, I think you're missing the other ramnifications of such actions. When I finally did meet the right girl, I had to hope that she wouldn't leave me because I hadn't waited. I had to take HIV tests before marriage so I'd know with certainty that I hadn't caught anything that would ruin our lives. Imagine how more complicated things would have been if I'd gotten someone else pregnant. Not only would my life be harder, but some poor kid of mine would be potentially messed up because of it.
Marriage, if you take it as a sacred thing, is something you're only supposed to do once. Sexual complications can be worked out. If you're not dedicated enough to one another to work out something as important as sex, what does that say about the rest of your relationship? Hopefully your future spouse is more important to you than a house. Houses are bought and sold. I think at the root of your statement is the idea that marriage really isn't that important to you, it's not worth working at on a regular basis - and that's a shame.
You can pray about anything. Don't knock it when you clearly haven't tried it.
2006-10-03 05:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by luvwinz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I asked this question myself and I had to rattle it around in my head for a long time until I came up with an answer that worked for me.
Let's ignore the spiritual aspect of "though shalt not" for purposes of this conversation and just look at some of the earthly effects...
Economics: Imagine the tax dollars saved if society didn't have to set aside money for those poor mothers that got lied to, impregnated and left by those over grown boys. Imagine the emotional agony they would never have to endoure of raising children all by herself. ( God bless her for trying ) Of having some one there to share in the joy and burdens of a family.
Child raising: I think my last paragraph pretty much coverd it. But yes, I think a positive spouse in the house would be good thing for a childs development. If said spouse had it enough will power not to jump the significant other's bones until the wedding night, that says alot about the character of said person. However, God didn't ban foreplay, just sex.
Compatability: Yes sex is an important part of a relationship, but it's smaller that one would think. You be suprised how old sex can get if that's the focal point of the relationship. At that point, other person is just a toy, and pretty soon, you'll want a newer model. But, if the two of you manage to explore other points of compatability ( hobbies, interests, or just general intimacy) then when you two have finally rubbed each other raw, you have something to talk about while the neosporin kicks in.
The point of the adultery commandment is to prevent snap decisions about two peoples future, and to make sure that it's love, not lust. It's tough, I agree but well worth the effort.
As for satisfying your partner....God never said you couldn't use power tools.
Best wishes.
2006-10-03 05:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well sex was made by God, it's something and husband and a wife are to enjoy, I believe that if a man and a woman wait until marriage and they are truly in love it will be a great experience. I have been there before in life and unfortunately have had sex before marriage, but now after really finding God I have cut it out until the wedding day comes, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes but God forgives us. I know sex is a big deal but I can't imagine that two people couldn't work these issues out to satisfy each others needs. And anything can be taken care of by prayer, I fully believe that.
2006-10-03 05:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by steve 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God just wants the best for us... if you wait until marriage it is safer you don't have to worry about unwanted pregnancies, HIV or other type of infections, no one is going to broke your heart once you have slept together, you will keep yourself for a person who will really love you, etc...there are a lot of reasons.
If you think it is necessary to know if you'll be satisfied by a person in marriage then you have the worst attitude...you are being selfish if you think that way. If you go to marriage with that attitude...is positive you'll end up divorcing.
Besides sex is a part of marriage, not the most important thing. If you love someone who loves you back, and you both give other person enough time (like in marriage) you'll have great sex.
2006-10-03 05:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by fireangel 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, talk to somebody with an STD like AIDS or go chat with a 16 year old mom who's trying to finish high school. Or talk to somebody who has been married and divorced six times because they are so concerned about the sexual aspect of their relationship that they allow all other aspects to atrophy.
They might be able to shed more light on this question than I can...
2006-10-03 05:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Open Heart Searchery 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have never yet meet two people who had all their sexual preferences set at age 20. Or 30. Or 40. Or 50. Like anything else, it grows and changes with time and maturity. And it gorws and changes with intimacy. Over 33 years with my wife, the things we have learned to enjoy together have grown and increased. I have learned to please her in the way she needs and vice versa. No amount of playing around with others - or even your intended before marriage - will prepare you to know how to play her 30 years from now.
Why is premarital sex wrong? Because anytime you give yourself in physical intimacy, a piece of your heart goes with in. If you are sleeping around with a dozen different women before you finally settle on a wife, you have given away dozens of pieces of your heart and love that you can never get back. She will always have to share you with the women who are still in the back of your head somewhere.
Plus in this day and age when adultry and divorce is rampage, how is a woman suppose to trust that you will be faithful to her when you were not faithful to any others of the others before, and you even started your relationship with her outside of the committment of a marriage? That is really going to make her secure in your love.
Have you witnessed how destructive a divorce is on people? Is a break up between two people sacking up together really any less destructive? You really want to do that to a dozen women - or even one? Do you really want to do that to yourself?
Add to that STDs, which could be stopped in one generation forever if everyone were to stop fornication and adultry. Add to that pregnancies, single mothers having to raise children without a father, the strain on the next relationship when you are having to pay out for some other woman's kid.
Statistics continue to show the people who live together before marriage have a higher divorce rate that people who do not. So apparently "trying out sex" before hand does not do any good.
But more than that, it shows that sex before marriage cheapest people's idea of what a committment to that other person is, and puts them into a pattern of "love em and leave em" that damages their relationships and intimacy for the rest of their lives.
2006-10-03 05:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cannot show me anywhere in the Bible that says premarital sex is wrong! Man's interpretation by twisting verses and changing the translations can but not God.
Please read the information below and you will learn the truth.
Seeing the answers given by most of those answering shows that they know absolutely nothing about their Bible in this regard. I say again go read the information I have given below before you continue to show your wrongful indoctrination by MAN"S religion not God's Word.
2006-10-03 05:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
think about it this way, if NOBODY had premarital sex then u wouldn't have anyone to compare it to.
but since everybody pretty much has premarital sex , then that is y sex is so dangerous, we would have less diseases spreading around,
not to mention that for a guy there really isn't anything that is done but for a woman , lets just say that you don't stay tight , more sex , more of the elastic is gone .
2006-10-03 05:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by regina p 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Even tho premarital sex is wrong, ask for forgiveness and you will receive it. Marriage requires 'sacrificial love', we are supposed to love our partner like Jesus loves his bride (that would be 'us' ). Sexual incompatibility can be overcome if both are willing to work on it. No matter what, if my husband could not, or would not want to be sexual anymore...I would learn to live with it, because life without his presence would be no life at all, I love him that much.
2006-10-03 05:35:36 · answer #11 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋