My son just started kendergarden and every morning he wakes up excited to go. His teacher and I agreed to have a system with notes. Green note means good, Yellow note means ok, red means bad. Lately the reds been out weighing the greens and yellows. I have tried everything to keep him on track, time out, taking his toys, no games ect... He got sent to the office yesturday for being disruptive in class i'm just sick of his behavior please help me?
2006-10-03 05:19:10 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You , the teacher, and your son need to sit down and have a talk. Sounds like he is bored. Get in there and the three of you talk and figure out what is going on with him.
2006-10-03 08:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 5 and full of testosterone. It will settle at the age of 7 but unless you get on top of the behaviour he will be labelled. Meet with the teacher and work out a plan. Involve your son so he knows what is acceptable at school at what is not. He needs a behavioural chart at school. If none of this seems to be working you may need to consult a paediatrician as this is an age when ADHD and ODD can appear. I'm not saying this is what it is as I am fed up with all these behavioural questions being answered with ADHD. Talk with the teacher..make a plan...follow it through then assess it again in a few weeks
2006-10-03 17:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a meeting with the teacher...
I would find out what is expected of him. When he is acting out and what the activities are. Are these things appropriate for his age? Is the teacher expecting too much? Does he need an extra 10 minute break to get out energy? Does he have a little food in his belly? Is the work to hard for him? Are there other kids encouraging him? There are two sides to every story.... Ask your son what he thinks is going on. Ask him how he can help to make these things better at school. Sometimes I have noticed teachers take things too serious for kids at such a young age and it needs to be pointed out. I have watched and noticed this in my own kids class when I volenteered. Not only with my child but with other children.
2006-10-03 10:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would spend a couple days viewing him in class. It would give me as a parent a better understanding of what is going on within the classroom. It is pretty hard for you as a mom to discipline, after the fact. Which is why I'm not really understanding your son's teacher note system. If she needs to give him a time out within the class room setting she needs to do that and that is quite common while children are getting used to the classroom setting as apposed to the household setting.
I highly recommend you get more involved at the school with your child and see exactly what is going on, and take it from there.
2006-10-03 05:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by lesbianmommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does he behave normally at home? Is he hyperactive ? I ask because I have a son who started school at 3 and it was only then where I observed that he is unlike other kids..he has short attention span, roams around the class. He seems not to listen to his teachers but get very good grades. I researched and found that he shows signs of ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder). He is now 7 and goes to a regular school and is doing very well. He is still hyper but we manage to control his behavior by understanding his personality
2006-10-03 13:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Petra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punishment is not always the answer.
(talking) make him tell you word for word what he did , then notice if he acknowledge what he did was wrong.Usually, a child that age does'nt know he did wrong and getting toys tooken away is not teaching him. Tell him that was a bad thing to do and why its bad to do it. If the child continue, which they will, sit them down and remind them what wrong and whats right, then you can give them a old fashion butt whipen. ALWAYS REMEMBER when having a conversation with your child let them speak to you back and tell you how they feel and how they felt at the time of the doing wrong.Even if your child is 2/3/4/5/6and so on. If they can speak let them talk and you have to teach them. But if they continue when they know it was wrong whoop dat azz.ITS THE ONLY WAY
2006-10-03 19:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That "system" is terrible, and your son knows what the colors mean, even if only subconsciously. Because basically if your son misbehaves in the morning and gets a red card, then there's no incentive for him to behave better the rest of the day!
It's a good idea tro reinforce the idea to your son that you expect him to show proper respect to his parents, his teachers, his coaches. I try to do that when I reprimand my daugther, as in I expect better behavior, for me, your teachers, your grandparents. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-10-03 06:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by norcalirish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behavior modification is something to look into. Also talk to the teacher and see what type of things he has been doing besides just being disruptive. My son used to get in trouble a lot until I finally took him to his pediatrician and finally to a child psychologist who diagnosed him with ADD.
2006-10-03 08:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk w/ teacher and son together and try to come up w/ something. If it continues take him to his doctor. Maybe he has ADD or something that can be treated. My nefew had it - being disruptive - but he was "bored" because he already knew the material and doc diagnosed him w/add and gave meds. He turned out straight A's and now doesn't take meds and just graduated college w/top honors. So, you never know!
2006-10-03 07:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by melsamjer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what his behavior is at home? If this is a change from his normal behavior, you must get to the bottom of it.
My son was so excited to go to kindergarten, then he got their and was bored out of his mind. They worked on colors and shapes the whole 1st semester. He knew how to print his name and got angry because the teacher would not let him print his name himself.
He was bored. Don't rule that out in your son.
2006-10-03 05:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by starting over 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋