My boyfriend and I are 15 years apart, (I'm 22, he's 37) I know, it's a big age difference. We live together, so the relationship is serious.
Sometimes I have a feeling I'm rebound girl, however.
Anyways, he says that I am good in bed, and I am agressive and open minded in bed. Yet, whenever I push for sex more than half the time he pushes me away. He says it's just because of the age difference, and that I'm get more excited than he does. To me this is just an excuse. Any thoughts?
2006-10-03 05:17:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know, I've thought of all of these possibilities. I've been cheated on before. It would be kind of silly for him to cheat, considering his age and how open I am., but they still do it. ::Shrug:: He just calls me paranoid and tells me he's not the cheating type and that he wouldn't do that to me.
2006-10-03 05:51:44 · update #1
I dated a guy who was 10 years older than me, and I wanted sex more than he did most of the time. I do think its because he's way past the horny years of his life.
P.S. Careful with older men. They are in different worlds, and aspire for different things than you. You should find someone on the same level and age group as you are.
2006-10-03 05:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of different possiblities. He could have someone on the side (maybe or maybe not).
It could be a control issue. He wants it when he wants it. You're 22, so it's always great sex. It may be even better when you are available when he wants or needs it. Control is a powerful sexual stimulant to some.
Another possibility: Well, at age 37, I had, and still do at times, many things on my mind that were more important to me at the moment than sex. My sex drive was the same as it was when I was in my 20's, but often, there were other things in my life that needed my immediate attention, thoughts or energy which precluded me from being in the mood for sex.
2006-10-03 12:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i dont believe that it is an excuse. As we get older (men) we lose some of the testosterone that was once flowing thru us. Doesnt mean we dont get horny, just means that sleep and other things take some importance as well. Im 34 and seem to go thru cycles where I want it tons for a week or two, then i dont want it much at all for a while. I think its just normal. However he is one lucky sob. I would be bangin a 22 year old gal as many times a day as i could!!!!!
2006-10-03 12:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 and my fiance is 39. We have an awesome sex life. I will have to admit though that I want it more than him and sometimes he has to tell me no maybe tomorrow especially if weve done it a couple of days in a row. I know with us its the age difference not that he just doesnt want it and its probably the same with you and your man, I wouldnt worry about it if everything else in the relationship is fine.
2006-10-03 12:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah tell him to take some Viagra!! Make him drink something that is going to give him more energy!! tell him to stop making excuses because it might turn out that you will be looking for someone to satisfy your needs and then the problems come but hey you let him no your thoughts about your sexual needs and he is ignoring them. It will hurt the relationship in the long run because everyone needs the needs met.
2006-10-03 12:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by geminigurl2404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EXCUSE!!! You need to find out if anthing else is going on. I know of some men in there 50's that wouldnt mind getting some every night.
Not saying that he's cheating but the excuse he gave you is totally false.
2006-10-03 12:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful, I also did the same thing and married the man come to find out there were a lot of issues he had not told me about. I also tried counseling with him but that really didnt work because men tend to think there is something wrong with them if they have to go to counseling and would much rather live with it then deal with it.
2006-10-03 12:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to think that age din't matter , Im 23 and the guy was 45 and at first it was all pink and pretty but then it turn gray and ugly,,,, you should of seen,I think that he is not ready for a relationship..he just does not want to feel lonely,,,, so think abou ti,,
2006-10-03 12:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the age difference. I know that when people get older (both men and women) their sex drive isnt as high as when it was younger. I dont think you should take it personal unless he is not sexually satisfying you.
2006-10-03 12:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart,i hate to tell you this,but it probably won't get better.if he cared as much for you as you seemingly do for him he would be just as exiceded.at 37 he is still to young for age to make a difference.trust me,i'm 53 and have been there.sounds like he dosen't know a great thing,while he has it
2006-10-03 12:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by randy g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋