Her birthday is coming up, but she is not in the mood for any parties. She is going to be 55, and she has the support of 3 children including myself. I would like to involve all three of us, but money is tight. I know spending time with her is nice, but I want to do something a little more...
2006-10-03 05:11:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would get her a small bunch of colorful flowers for the table they don't have to be expensive ones, just very colorful, get some balloons and a Happy Birthday sign/or make one and bake a cake/or buy one, fix dinner at her home or where ever she feels the most comfortable. All of you can chip in on these things and I bet some of her friends would love to chip in too! Invite a few of her friends ask them to bring a little dish to pass for dinner. Friends and family are a great combination for a birthday!
2006-10-03 11:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by IronWkrMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do for your mom while she is getting a divorce is give her peace and tranquility. I am going through a divorce and it has taken an entire year and we still aren't done. I would get stressed just standing in court for twenty minutes. Divorces take an emotional toll on people.
We begin to feel that it was our fault, a sense of hope is lost, and even your identity can suffer if you've been married long enough to develop a lifetime with your partner.
Remind your mother of the stunning woman that's been quiet for too long. Bring out pictures. Make Iced Tea and sit under a tree and ask her a 1,001 questions about your childhood - even if you know the answers. Take turns between your siblings and share the responsibility of not letting her get down in the dumps.
Also, respect her wishes. If she doesn't want a fuss about her birthday, do something small like planting a bed of roses around her house. And please, if she wants to talk about it, let her vent. Don't shut her out.
2006-10-03 12:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mystress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, limitless possiblities! Divorce is stressful, for everyone. Why not see about cooking dinner with your siblings for mom. cook all her favorites and just "NOSH" with her, spend time with some wine, food and good old fashioned happy family company. If you could all chip in and get her a nice mani/pedicure or a message that would be great! You could take her to the movies or do the cheap way like I do and rent, with pillows and blankets on the floor, lots of popcorn and munchies and just veg. Maybe even add to the "festivities" a letter on nice paper that each of you writes down/describes the ways your mother has inspired you. Good luck!
2006-10-03 13:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by beachy0220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in NYC, Spa Week is from October 16-22, 2006. Massages are $50. She might like that.
Try gathering up the other kids and making a surprise dinner for her then sending her off to get a masage ALONE. If not nix the massage and just do the dinner. Don't buy her anything BUT write her a special not, create something crafty for her.
i will keep your family in my prayers!
2006-10-03 12:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by kim_mii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting you all together would be great, but if not possible, put together a collage of pictures of all 4 of you, at different times in your lives. Have a nice dinner out if you can afford it, or fix a nice dinner if you can't. Being there for her is the best thing you can do right now. Divorce is tough if you don't want it.
2006-10-03 12:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI!
FInd someone that you know that could take a nice photo of all of you dressed up and take her out to dinner and spend the day all together. Just be with her and support her. She will be happy
2006-10-03 12:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a gift card for a pedicure. find a salon that has those massaging chairs to sit in while you soak your feet. should be ~$20. maybe all three of you could go together!
2006-10-03 12:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by movielovingirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time, love and respect. Not to only one parent but to both.
2006-10-03 12:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrebel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her a 'spa basket'--fill it with great products and make coupons that she can cash in for a lunch or dinner of her choice with each of you and your siblings...that way she will feel great on days that she might feel lonely and down.
2006-10-03 12:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by dlgrl=me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't your dad going through the same divorce what about him
2006-10-03 12:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋