Tomorrow I have to see my doc about finding out that I have kidney stones. I know I have them. I always have them and my parents are going to kill me over it because I don't do what I'm supposed to do. The thing is I'm disabled and I'm sick of taking "extra" care of myself and I don't want to worry about doing more to prevent more kidney stones. I'd rather not live at all. I can't tell my parents but I have to because they're my transportation to the hospital and they wil know eventually. They always do. I don't trust my parents at all. I don't trust them , after the way they treat me over it for at least 20 years. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm already too depressed and panicking.
2006-10-03 04:54:38 · 9 answers · asked by bigboy105us 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
If you have had this problem with them for at least 20 years you are an adult. Your doctors are not allowed to talk to them without your permission. Ask your doctor for some HIPPA paperwork. On there you can specify specifically who your doctor can and can't talk to.
2006-10-03 05:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family relationships for people with disabilities are tough- I sympathize with you deeply.
I also understand the whole sick and tired of it all feeling. Especially being disabled and 20, it can feel pretty overwhelming.
You need to talk to someone face to face that can help- a counsellor, a doctor or therapist you trust, a minister, whatever. You need to regain your sense of perspective and purpose.
I mean, come on- talking like this because of something as minor in the scheme of things as not wanting to talk to your folks about kidney stones? These are either some honking stones or there are other issues in your life right now.
On this specific issue- surely there are other transportation options in your area? You may need to do some research, but there are usually a few vans available from one group or another that you can try to get a ride with. if you had your own transporation options, you'd have a lot more freedom from your folks and that alone might help you feel better.
2006-10-03 12:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, calm down and take a deep breath! Your parents don't have to know what happens inside the consulting room so you can speak to your consultant privately. Maybe you should also speak to him or your GP about your anxiety. When your already depressed anxiety can make things a million times worse. Please dont say you'd rather not live at all. You must seek help and advice from a medical professional as you may need treatment for your depression. Life cant be easy living with a disability. Maybe you should speak to your parents about how you feel. I know not everyone can do that but if you can you must as they might be unaware of how they are making you feel. Good luck for tomorrow
2006-10-03 12:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the State Health and Social services dept NOW! today!kidney stones are no picnic and neither is a abusive Mom and Pop. I suppose they are using your disability check for other than you.
Hay man, cheer up things may seem a little out of order now. However: You need to make the changes and take charge of your life,do what you physically can to become a little more independent. Your self esteem will soar.
But do get the facts written down(be truthful) and your #1 goal is to take care of yourself and get out of the situation you are in now.
2006-10-03 12:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by BONES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kidney stones arent that serious...my friend had one and though painful at the time, it does pass through the system sooner or later...its not something for your parents to get upset over, and im sure if they do, its just because they are worried and its nothing directly towards you...id ask your doctor if there is stuff you can do to prevent this in the future..also ask your parents for a lil bit of help if you feel it is too difficult to fully take care of yourself...but small stuff like this isnt worth taking your life over...actually nothing is, everything passes over time and just makes one stronger..good luck
2006-10-03 12:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Michael D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many hospital systems have referal llists to community groups that focus on providing independant living for disabled persons- this includes transportation to and from appointments, counseling, shopping, assited health care at home AND housing.
If you are depressed, then it is likely that following up on the 'right' medical care is harder for you- most people are like that.
Depression and wanting to die from medical problems is common, and it's totaly OK to talk to your doctor about it- privately.
I'm guesing from your words that you are over 21, which means you are an adult.
Unless your parents have absolute power of attourny over you, and you are considerd a 'ward', then you have the right to privacy, to choose your own care, the right to say no, and the right to choose to NOT care for yourself.
Sometimes caregivers take 'care' in a way that holds inapropriate power and control over the person needing the care... there are times this could be considered abusive. Please talk to your doctor frankly about the problems you are having with your parents, with your care, with your transportation.
Your life belongs just to you, no one else. Your choices are your own. It may be a hard road to be disabled and asl to choose not to 'take extra care' of yourself, but you do have that right. But please, check in with your doctor about these things. Sometiems there are better and unknown solutions.
2006-10-03 12:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Max 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you trust them? Sometimes we just don't understand our parents love, and concern. If I knew the reason you don't trust them I could give you some more feedback.
Still, there is one thing that concerns about your situation, why don't you want to take full care of yourself, that's a problem that lies within you. Noboby can help you if you don't want to help yourself. Life is precious, and dear, its all in how you look at things, and how you live your life. it's time for you to take a better outlook in life, and yourself.
2006-10-03 12:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Joyous Dawn in the morning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your doctor about this very problem. If you have hospital treatments you can also ask to see a patient "counsellor" who may be able to help you with professional advice.
2006-10-03 11:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by helene m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up.....please.
How old are you? You don't say how you are "disabled"? The whole, "I don't want to live anymore" and "I don't trust my parents but they are going to kill me..." blah blah blah.
Grow. Up.
2006-10-03 12:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋