to do. im hes 1st friend with benefit he has ever had and we went out for a week but then we broke up because he said he wasnt ready. i need opinion do you think i should tell him how i feel or not?
2006-10-03 04:36:17 · 12 answers · asked by St@r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should ALWAYS tell how you feel, I mean at this point you two are REALLY already in a relationship, just on limited terms. If you don't tell the other person the truth of how you feel, whats in your mind is going to come out in your actions anyway, and he will be left to guess or speculate as to why you are doing the things that you are doing and you will really just be left to suffer. It would put BOTH of you in a better situation if you just put your cards on the table. Then you can address the situation, and decide what you are going to do about it. Even if he has issues he is uncomfortable that caused him to back out then if he is open and honest about that then you all can address them and decide what to do from there.
anything else would be like going to the doctor and tell him that your back hurts when its really your foot, what he does won't really address you situation.
2006-10-03 04:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by theblessedknower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits never work...someone usually ends up getting a bit more involved than they should be and feelings get hurt. Even the most mature people who have relationships such as this one can wade in a bit too far. The only thing you can do is tell him that you are starting to have feelings for him and if he doesn't want anything more with you then you have to move on. He most likely won't ever change--he's having the time of his life. And you are probably not the only "buddy" he has. Think about what you want...I've been there and done that sweetie and it was me who got hurt even though I thought I had my feelings under control.
2006-10-03 04:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a relationships like this. You should go back to being friends and ones things are back to normal then let he know how you feel. I ones let go of a great relationship thinking he was just a friend when I wanted more. He told my best friend after I was married he was in love with me and could not tell me. I wish I had told him how I felt. I wanted to and decided it was best to just be friends. Why change a great thing. I am now married and committed to my husband and cannot change the past. It was to late for me but not for you.
Our benefits were one time after we where friends but was at the start of our relationship. We loved each other and were not brave enough to tell one another. I still love him and can't stop thinking of him. I will never let go of my very special husband to change what was in the past. I pray everyday that I never run into him because I'm not strong and worry what I may say if we see one another.
Good Luck
2006-10-03 05:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, friends with benefits is usually not a good idea. One person always ends up wanting more, and in my experience, it's usually the woman who ends up heartbroken. I hope you have learned from it.
Personally, I think you should move on. The only "benefit" you are likely to receive by telling him your true feelings is heartbreak. However, you really don't have much to lose, on the other hand.
Good luck to you, either way!
2006-10-03 05:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the point of having friends with benefits is to not catch feelings so don't tell him just yet this time you might run him away either cut this relationship with him or stop the feelings you have for him
2006-10-03 04:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him how u feel and if hes feeling the same why if not then let it go cuz you're just going to hurt yourself if you continue the relationship even thought its not actually a relationship ur still intimite you have to know where you stand if you dont then hes going to take adventage of the situation and do as he please with out actually caring
2006-10-03 04:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recoomend that you be totally honest with him. Tell him that your affections for him have grown and that he has taken a special place in your heart and that you want to continue your relationship with him but as a committed couple.
2006-10-03 04:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having his cake and eating it too. Stop! Don't give him that satisfaction. Make him chase you. If he can't committ, then let him be. He's not worth it in the first place.
2006-10-03 04:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that will learn you...anyway dont let yourself get used, its not a good look. now hes getting what he wants w/o being committed to you. dont go for that.
2006-10-03 05:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's a friend with benefit?? does it mean ur boy friend?
2006-10-03 04:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Leon the african 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋