My main problem is that I have been feeling depressed lately. As much as I try to find the right guy for me I can't. Everywhere I look I see couples looking so happy, and peaceful together. I am very educated, I work, and I am pretty, but no way seems to want me as a girlfriend.
What should I Do?
2006-10-03 04:28:51 · 16 answers · asked by Quiet V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you be alright with being single! you find the right guy!
2006-10-03 04:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that! (Own a few t-shirts too.) Sometimes I think it just hits home more than other times. You start to focus on couples and that only makes it worse. I would say try to find some outside activities to take your mind off things. You might even try some more "male" oriented things. I will admit that this approach has never gotten me a date (Seems I always managed to find a bunch of engagement and/or wedding rings) but I did have a lot of fun in various ways, and at least for a time, there was the "thrill of the potential." Besides, just because I didn't have much luck that route doesn't mean that you won't.
GOOD LUCK! And remember, timing is everything. It could be that up until now your timing has been a little off. But you never do know just when all of that will change.
OH and there is a lot of truth to what they say... The moment you stop looking is the moment others start finding you.
2006-10-03 11:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the best thing is to take life one day at a time. I have looked on Yahoo personals and on Myspace. I am nearing 40 years old and still have not found the right lady. I am also a hard working responsible and fun person but I do work alot and find it hard sometimes to have a social life. None of the ladies at my office are available. So here I am . I spend time with my hobbies and music. Enjoy my spending time with my teenage daughters when I can. Just have to be your self. Yahoo personals is a though though. Good place to find new friends. And that is the key, you can't have romance without friendship first. Good luck.
2006-10-04 12:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. That used to be me to a T. And then I just stopped worrying about it. I was in the middle of a good job working at a summer camp and I really didn't have time for guys. I had almost basically given up when I met my current boyfriend (and love of my life). So maybe if you focus on other things that make you happy you'll find someone who enjoys those same things. Hang out with friends and have them bring their friends. Just don't get your heart set on one single guy.
2006-10-03 11:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow how incredible is that! The exact same sentiment I have expressed for more than twenty years. Knowing that there is a woman/women who face the same delimma is encouraging for me. All good words here. I know the ache. You know what I did, something I had been putting off doing for as long as have been crying about being single. Started playing tennis, now when get home to my empty apartment I feel great! My point find something you have been putting off doing and commit to it. Not saying your need will go away, but it will not always be front and center.
It will happen for as it will for me:)
2006-10-03 11:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been single...a lot, I can say with some authority that you need to learn to be satisfied with your own company. Once you're okay with your singleness, it seems like the opportunities for a relationship are better and more frequent. It think it has something to do with not seeming desperate and trying too hard.
As soon as you can take them or leave them, they will come along. Good luck.
2006-10-03 11:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem like when you are depressed that you see people in love everywhere u look, I know I have been there. But my best advice is to not look for Mr. RIght. The more you look, the harder he is to find. Just accept the way your life is right now, and when it's ur time, you will find him.
2006-10-03 11:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy being single. There are a lot of perks, most people in relationships would love to switch places with you. It is not all it is cracked up to be. Be patient, your prince will come along. Men are much more attracted to an independent woman then someone who cannot fend for herself
2006-10-03 11:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by kris_swc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a lot to do than seeing those couples and being envy with them. dont you know that love is like a bee and you are the flower.. if the flower kept on moving there is no way for the bee to find the flower. what i mean is dont keep looking for love cause love will come to you and if it does it will stay forever. having no boyfriend doesnt mean youre ugly, it only means that God is still writting the perfect love story for you..CHILL UP....
2006-10-03 11:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being yourself!! Don't rely on other people to be your measuring stick for happiness. Because someone "looks" happy, doesn't mean they are. You have to be happy with you, with you and what you are, and be happy with yourself being a single person. If the right person comes along for you, great! If not, great also!! Respect yourself and be happy in who you are! Good luck, honey!
2006-10-03 11:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find the right guy for you. Dont lose hope, cause there is someone out there for everyone. It sounds to me like we are in the same boat... Keep smiling!!!
2006-10-06 13:53:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋