Female opinion please... HPV?

Question

Hi. I would love some female opinion on the following case scenario :

You are dating a guy, and you both care for each other a lot. This is definitely going to be a serious and long term relationship. You get along real well, you really like each other, and feel like you can more than like each other in a long, possibly very long term relationship.U both want to take the relatioship to the next level.

Then, the guy tells you that his last girlfriend informed him that she tested positive for Human Pappiloma Virus so he probably has it too but can't be sure since there is no HPV test for males. YET! There's an FDA approved vaccine for females, called Gardasil, proven to be 100% effective and very safe. It prevents getting HPV,both the kinds that may cause warts and the types that may cause cervical cancer. Would you get this shot so that you dont catch the HPV and stay with him? Would you leave him? What would your reaction be? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.Thanks :-)

Thanks for all the responses. For those who thought I was female, I am the guy in this picture not the girl. I wanted to get some female opinion.

Answer 1

I would be glad that the guy actually knows he was exposed to it! Most women don't even know, and more than half of them that do have it never find out because it goes away by itself (usually) with time. I had it as a teenager and had to have surgeries to take care of it. HPV is not spread ONLY through sex!!!, it can develop on its own. So all girls should get it anyways!!!I think any girl dating a guy who is upfront, honest, and cool about the whole thing would realize she has a good thing going with him.

Answer 2

Well my fiance apparently had a very shady past with a lot of sluts and he gave me HPV. For girls it clears on it's own (I sound like the commercial) it does though. It's pretty painful having to get a coloscopy thing done where they scrape you or something. It can kill you if it's not treated. I say it's not worth leaving him over. You have to decide either use a condom or get HPV, it's your choice and yes I would get the shot because you never know right. It's only a shot, I wish I knew about that before I got with my man. He can also be examined by a doctor they can check for small warts on his um member which are invisible to the naked eye. Either way your screwed, just get the shot. I wouldn't leave him. P.S. as for my reaction I went off on him (which was kind of mean because he didnt know about it, but still) and had him tested for other STD's as well, he's lucky he came out clean or then well, he'd be floating at the bottom of the Hudson right now. Good luck

Answer 3

I am glad you guys have talked about it. If I were her I would get the vaccine (although it doesn't protect against all strains of HPV- just the most common ones). It will save her from getting it, and possibly cancer. And not to say that your relationship isn't going to last (I wish you the best of luck) but sometimes they don't work out and if she doesn't get vaccinated she will then be in your current position of having to tell a new potential partner she has HPV. So not only will it protect her while you are together but if it doesn't end up you are together forever she will be protected in future relationships.

I would get the shot- I am thinking of getting it anyway since it is something you can get even if you practice safe sex.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

I would definately get the vaccine. At least your bf is aware that he may have HPV, can you think of all the guys carrying it around without a clue? You shouldn't let this negatively affect your relationship...after all he was VERY honest with you and disclosed something very personal and intimate with you. You guys need to make sure you go to the clinic for STD screening before (and hopefully it's not too late) you practice unprotected sex. Whatever you do have fun and be safe.

Answer 5

the shot isn't widely available yet. I believe it's still in clinical trials and it's been approved for just that. The hpv test for women is for women over 30, and if your pap test comes back abnormal chances are you picked it up already and you'll have to go through a biopsy and surgery to remove the cancerous cells. I would talk to a doctor before making a firm decision to sleep with him. STD's are easier to pick up than you realize.

Answer 6

Well first I definatley would get the vaccine. If you already have feelings for him you should go on like any other relationship. As long as you can't get anything. ( I don't know much about Human Pappiloma Virus)

Answer 7

I think I would get the shot. So did he know the whole time you've been together that his ex has it? I take it you have been either wearing condoms or haven't had sex yet up to this point. I think the shot sounds like a good idea even if you don't stay with him.

Answer 8

Get the vaccine...if you love him, then stay!! But I'd be worried about what else he might have. Make him get tested for all other STD's and you do the same! Most people don't have just 1 STD!!! Good luck!!

Answer 9

Get him to have a sexual disease screen, which if clear you can have the vaccine and stay with him. HPV is common, however its origins are not yet fully researched, so he's not dirty or contaigeous, but it is better to be safe than sorry

Answer 10

I would consider how much he means to me and if it was all worth it then get the shot and take the relationship to the next level. Good luck.