My guy has a female friend who he hangs with...?

Question

a few times a week. He has called her from my phone (even programmed her # in there!), I've seen her a couple of times and he's talked to her on his phone in my presence afew times as well
(not in a rude way). He describes her a "a cool girl" and says I "have to meet her". I'm not THAT suspicious cause if he was trying to hide something, why would he be so open about them chilling together, want me to meet her, and talk to her on MY phone? They work together also, so I know they see each other daily. I trust my guy, but I don't know if I can trust her- I don't know her. He clearly referenced me as "his lady" while talking to her, so she knows he's attatched. I just don't know if she sees him as a friend, like he sees her or if she could possible LIKE him and hope for something more. What would you do in this situation or how would you feel?

Answer 1

I hate to throw my past on you, but I am the suspicious type where "other women" are involved. Yes, she knows he's attached so she should back off & find someone else to "pal around" with. If they work together & see one another every day, that's enough contact - no need for them to hang out a couple of times during the week or be in constant touch on the phone. The very fact that he has you may even act as a goad on her - it becomes a challenge to some females. I really think he needs to cool it with her, as well. He has you, why does he need to talk to her & hang with her every week? He could be doing something with you - that's taking time & thought away from your relationship. Then again, I know you both need friends & outside interests - so you won't stifle one another - but does it have to be a female he's so close to?! I wouldn't trust her at all. Period. I have no idea how to advise you, but I would meet the woman. Let her see you "looking good" too - make sure she knows what he has & what he gets when he's home. Not that you need to "mark your territory", but I wouldn't stray too far from his side when ya'll get together with this female. Also, you might want to tell him exactly what you've told us. Or even show him this question & let him read our answers - because he needs to know that you are concerned & confused enough that you are asking for clarification on this matter. He should understand that what he's doing with her may seem innocent enough, but could lead to trouble. It may be okay to have a female friend/co-worker/pal, but it might present problems. He needs to be more aware that his actions could cause you concern. Try to talk to him without getting emotional, upset, accusing, etc. That will make him run right to her! Good luck dear. I hope it turns out better for you than it did for me.

Answer 2

It is possible for a guy and a girl to be friends - and nothing else. My best friend in high school was a guy. We were joined at the hip! When I met my hubby, we all got along. My friend came to my wedding and cried. Your bg isn't being hiding anything from you, so that indicates he's telling you the truth. I would not discourage their friendship. Maybe make plans to go out together as a group with other people, etc., so you can get to know her. That's actually what he'd like you to do. He cares for her as a friend, so you should respect that. But he loves you. Work with him, don't make him make a choice between the two of you. :)

Answer 3

i would feel uncomfortable about her 2. I would meet her. Find out if she is with a bf. how long they have been to gather. and at the end however u feel talk to him about it. if he really loves u there is nothing u can not talk about. do not get hateful just tell him hey i feel this why i do not know why an i am sorry but i can not change my feelings an i think all will work out for u. u want the truth an so does he. just talk to him after giving her a fair chance. she could just be a cool friend.

Answer 4

Well the only thing you can do is meet her!!!!! Maybe the three of you could go out somewhere, or maybe ask if she has a male friend and make it the 4 of you going out somewhere.

I really don't think you have anything to worry about, and you may like her as well and the two of you could have a really good friend.

Good luck

Answer 5

I heard that a friendshipwith a guy and a girl is inpossible. There is always someone who wantssomething more. In that case it might be her. You should meet her. Go out together, you her and your boyfriend. Show her that you and your bf are really close together just in case.

Answer 6

I believe opposite sex friends are okay, as long as it is done very respectfully. Given that she is a relatively significant presence in his life, you, as his girl, should meet her anyway, as you would the other people of significance to him. When you meet her, you will be able to assess the situation more directly. Her eye contact, her mannerisms, etc. will be more apparent to you than they would be to her man. If she is romantically interested in him, you will be able to detect it, even if he cannot.

Answer 7

You don't have anything to worry about. You should meet and hang out with his friend too, you might like her and realize that she just want to be his friend. My best friend is a guy we hang out all the time, and their is nothing between us ( just friends).

Answer 8

My fiance has a female friend that calls him all the time it makes me so mad and he is very secretive about it, he says nothing is going on, but I ddon't know

Answer 9

some girls i dated had best friends that were guys... which was cool, but i let her know what the deal was, if i ever suspect you were messing around on me that was it, i dont need proof just a feeling, and its over, and she understood, and i ended up dumping her cause she was... well unitellegent, u know just plain dumb

Answer 10

i have a lot of friends who are girls and it doesn't affect my relationship