I am a 21 year old muslim girl born and bred in the uk and a lesbian. Noone knows of my sexuality because if family knew i would get married off. However i met a women, through my mother because my mum knows her mother in law. She is about 32 and has five children. She got into an arranged marriage but she has been touching me up sexually. She started with my breasts and by stroking my hair.. she has kissed me down my neck and keeps calling me her sweetheart. I am so confused why she does this because she is married. She even said to me once your quite good with DIY can u set my dishwasher for me; she clarified and said come on your own not with your mum, come during the day and kept saying i wish i had someone like you. She says oh .... you have such a gorgeous face . This is making me mad because does she just want sex or does she want me personally. Please help i am so confused. I havent had any sexual relationships because waiting for the right girl.
2006-10-03 04:03:50 · 24 answers · asked by mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mary...a problem might be on the tracks - a lass with five kids (do they all come from the same male) is dodgy. You say she is married, and so she either has tired of her guardian, or - not meaning to sound patronising - she's probably read about it in one of the many mags that tend to have such stories. Bisexuality is a bum of a situation - there are people who indeed have had yearnings for both sexes as soon as the knew what they had between their legs...but there's the other lot, known to one and all as 'weekend queens', who mess up the lives of poor dears they have latched onto - of course the latter don't realise they are messing them about. Maybe she's at an age she has grown slightly vexed at the situation she's in - with five active bairns and the like...could be hubby is not even lifting a hand to help.
Smiled at you saying you tried to stop her, but it feels so good - but as with most things...the better it is, the more you pay for it, Mary! And 21 is a beast of an age...your beauty and aura is seen by everyone - but it's up to you to discern everyone's purpose...and that includes the lass with her bairns.
Salaam, pet!
PS...will this be the last time you post this question? (YOU'VE DONE IT SIX TIMES, Mary)
PPS...I realise my particular answer suggests hypocrisy, as I won 10 points with the same answer on the questions' second outing - but hey, it seems she doesn't want an answer at all...just a few horny-perverted men and boys telling her they'll be able to change her sexual yearnings. Why waste time in thinking up a half-decent answer on someone who doesn't know what she wants?
2006-10-03 04:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is a lesbian and was pushed into an arranged marriage for the same reason you fear you might be ... If she makes you feel uncomfortable, you should tell her so. If she continues to touch you, you should stop going to her house and find the courage to tell your mother why (although you should leave out your own lesbian tendencies I think)
You are old enough to leave home now and I suggest that if you can afford it, find a flat and mix with women you feel comfortable with - those of similar age and sexual persuasion.
I know this may be difficult as I don't know much about your religion and its ideals, but it would be much better for you than having to suffer the unwanted attentions of this other woman.
2006-10-03 11:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes, she was obviously in an arranged marriage & gone through the motions with her husband as a loyal wife, which doesnt mean to say she is not a lesbian, she has performed her marital duties as a wife by producing kids for him,under the muslim faith, so u will have to the same take the bull by the horns & kiss her & have sex with her, you are not obliged to tell anyone else, as you are of a legal age to make up your own mind, it is quite obvious that she has feelings for you, so why not respond to her, there is no shame in it, so go for it
2006-10-03 11:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Marry!
Don't disgrace ISLAM and Muslims. If you are such kind of girl, keep it with you, Then don't disclose that you are a disgruntle Muslim Girl.
You seems to be a freak, You've asked this Q for 6 times. Are you so much hot that you are ready to be sexually harassed by a lady? Being knowing the facts you are trying to cover up and have an excuse of this Wrong doing.
Go to hell if you want, I have told you to leave this path and come back to the perfect way of Islam. Every thing will be all right!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 11:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps she is really a lesbian as well and has had to 'conform' up to now and now sees you as someone she wants. It would be complicated though so maybe you should stay clear, think what will happen if the rest of your family find out. She could also be bisexual of course in which case it's more a 'fun' thing for her to have you on the side, again this could be very hurtful for you in the longer term. At the very least you should ask her what she is thinking -and tell her to keep her hands off for now!
2006-10-03 11:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by welsman1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She wants you. Being a lesbian is fun. She definately did not want to run away or upset d people that arranged the marriage for her. She might not had wanted to commit abortion 2. She is a now a bi not through no fault of hers. But for me, I think u should give her d chance. IF U LIKE HER.
2006-10-03 11:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by kinny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are waiting for the right girl - then you know better than doing stuff with a married woman. Tell how you really feel about the right girl and just stay away from her because she is married.
2006-10-03 11:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go over to her house alone, experience being with a girl, especially an older one. Maybe you two are kinda in the same boat. I'm sure she can't easily get outta her marriage. Experiment a little you are young.
2006-10-03 11:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by thealysiad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered this yourself when you said if your parents found out they would marry you off. She is probably in the same boat as you hon.
If you don't feel an attraction to her though then you need to tell her and break this off NOW!
2006-10-03 11:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I"m assuming she's married with kids? And if your parents found out you liked girls you'd be married off? So obviously that's what happened to this woman. Do you want to be like this woman? I think that's the question you need to ask yourself.
2006-10-03 11:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋