My daughter is so beautiful but has very few of her fathers genes. One being that she has to watch what she eats. I myself am very thin. I have struggled with gaining weight but my metabolism runs very high especially when stressed. That's why I love being pregnant. We eat very healthy at home, with treats being "treats". That is how I was brought up as was my husband.
My daughter spent 2 weeks with her father and his parents and came home unable to fit into any of her clothes. I understand that as she grows there will be changes here and there but over a 2 week period is a little over the top. They do no form of exercise and she spends a lot of her time watching TV.
She only goes there one night a week as a rule but sometimes he wants to take her an extra night. When I ask her what she eats at her fathers she pretends to forget because she knows it is unhealthy. She has a history of lying for him and his smoking around her.
I wear a size 3,small I know but she's 8 and wearing same?
2006-10-03 04:01:30 · 10 answers · asked by Kimberly R 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Wow I can't beleive how harsh people can be. We never discuss weight issues around her and I can't help if she wants to be a mini-me. She's my daughter!!!
I tell her she is beautiful all the time. She is very girly and we design and make clothes for her all the time.
Not only is it clothing size but her having trouble keeping up with activities she used to do well in. And she often comes home from weekends with him sick.
I'm not shallow at all and am constantly conscience that I'm setting an example for two little girls. If I wasn't I'd probably still be in my unhappy marriage with her father. I've always wanted more for her.
Did you ever hear of the saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!"
2006-10-03 04:28:44 · update #1
OMG...ask if she is pregnant!
2006-10-03 04:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand your concern- my daughter who is now 17 has always been on the heavier side. It used to really bother me and I was constantly taking her to the DR. because something had to be physically wrong (I have always been thin). She was also always tall for her age and at 8 was probably wearing a jr. size already also. I used to really stress about this and I was always trying to find "nice" ways to bring up the weight issue. Never turned out well!! My daughter is very active-a dancer who is captain of her dance team in H. S. and she is happy with who she is. I always say comfortable in her own skin. I cannot make her lose weight-I couldn't when she was 8 and I can't now. She could eat better and she knows that. If she decides at a later time in her life to lose weight it will be her choice and her accomplishment-and I will be thrilled for her. Unless there is something physically wrong with your daughter or it is affecting her health-there is not much you can do to change her weight-and the bigger issue you make of it the bigger the issue will become!. At 8 you have more influence over what she eats and how active she is but when she's at her dad's in my opinion you are fighting a losing battle. (I am also divorced from my daughters father). My best advice from experience is love who your daughter is for who she is-continue to be a positive role model (exercise and eat healthy). Do fun things together like bike ride or rollar blade-this will develop exercise habits that don't seem like exercise. Get her involoved in a sport or dance.
Good luck and try not to focus to much on it-I know it is hard. It took me about 5 years before I realized I was doing more harm than good. Sorry this is so long-I just feel very strongly about this subject. Hope I helped.
2006-10-03 04:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by sleepy_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Everyone has different parenting ways. Kids also go through "growth spurts". I have a daughter who is 10. One week she'll fit into her clothes and the next thing I know a month later she's outgrown them already. That is part of growing. The sad part is that when you constantly grill her about what she eats you are giving her a complex and probably pushing her to an eating disorder. You cannot compare your daughter to you being a size 3. EVERY PERSON IS DIFFERENT. No matter what the genes. Didn't you also mention that she was on vacation? I have yet to meet anyone who hasn't gained a few pounds on vacation. And with her being only 8 if she did gain a few extra pounds in 2 weeks she'll probably lose it pretty fast going back to what sounds like your strict regime. My heart goes out to her.
2006-10-03 04:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is a separate person. She is not your own personal "Mini-Me". She has her own body, her own metabolism, and will develop in ways different from yours.
While I can find no fault with your insistance that she eat healthy foods and exercise at home, your obsession with physical "beauty" and clothing sizes/weight is unhealthy for both her and yourself, and reducing the worth of a person to the size of their clothing is shallow in the extreme.
2006-10-03 04:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by sewmouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being too over protective. If gaining a little extra weight is the only "disadvantage" for a child living with seperated parents, I think you should let her be. Just remind her in a good way, that this is the reason you choose to eat healthy, even tho you don't have weight issues, she may have them one day (like now). How old is she, and is she FAT? If not, let the kid eat for two weeks!
2006-10-03 04:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be, i mean she's your daughter and you shouldn't even be talking about her like this to other people. I know where you are coming from though and it must be hard watching her let herself go, just be patient she might come good again, back into her normal routine before she went on holiday whatver the routine was but sounds like it was better than what routine she's in now. So be patient and supportive towards your daughter. She WILL come good again, you'll see. =)
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2016-10-01 21:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax woman. You sound paranoid. I would also "forget" things if I got the third degree. You are putting your daughter under a lot of pressure.
2006-10-03 04:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by jofrancisc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your question?
2006-10-03 04:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, like, are you SHALLOW, or what?
2006-10-03 04:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by jessiekatsopolous 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋