I noticed that some of you say that not getting enough sex would be a reason to cheat on her, but why cheat cant you be honest and say I am going to leave before hand so not to hurt the wife/girlfriend Isnt honesty what it is all about. and how much is not enough sex??? this gets me concerned!!!
2006-10-03 04:00:30 · 28 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will never cheat on a woman I love even if I don't get ANY sex. Love is love. Sex is lust. It's not the same thing.
If my wife does not want any sex, there must be reasons for it. The right thing to do would be to find out what's holding her back. Could she be distressed about something? Could she be upset with me about something?
If the reasons for her lack of desire for sex can be determined and overcome, that would be a better solution than cheating. And if she has valid reasons for not wanting sex - such as an illness - I would accept it and live with it. That is, if I love her.
But if there is no more love, despite various attempts to set things right, then it may be better to part ways.
Cheating is never the right thing to do.
2006-10-03 04:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by rempuh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hit the road before I cheated, but I have seen situations where two people will be in a relationship and suddenly one of the people in it stops being interested in sex and they say to the other person "I'm not interested in sex anymore, so you aren't getting any. Deal with it." Screw that. The way I see it, thinking that you no longer have to try to keep your partner or spouse happy because they are stuck with you is a crime second only to cheating on them, and anyone who thinks that way deserves to be dumped.
2006-10-03 04:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating seldom has anything to do with sex. Cheating is more often due to emotional need, not sexual. Of course this is not an absolute, but it is more typical.
If I am not getting enough sex, I can handle that myself. If I am not getting what I need from the relationship emotionally, i am stuck and fragile. Make sense?
2006-10-03 04:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My b/f said he cheated on his ex b/c he wasn't getting the sex, attention, love with her and that's why he went elsewhere. I think cheating is the lowest thing you could ever do, but I agree that you should talk about it first. Why would you hurt the one you love? If someone cheats, then they don't care for the other one! It is however, out of your hands. If they cheat, they cheat. They need to communicate better and talk about why they're feeling like they're growing apart.
2006-10-03 04:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is worded weird, but I'll try to answer. Just cause someone cheats doesn't mean they want to leave their spouse. Sometimes it is all about sex.... more sex, different sex, experimental sex... and sometimes you would just rather have another person to do that with, while your spouse may still be the one that has your heart.
2006-10-03 04:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when cheating is blamed on the other for not giving enough sex... It places a guilt on the other person and shame on those who cheat for doing so!
2006-10-03 04:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For each person, the level of sex is different. Some men will hit it when offered for free no matter what. Some men have some restraint and won't. The trick is finding the men who have some integrity and show restraint. In the end, all men can control themselves, but some won't because they are simply not mature and have issues.
2006-10-03 04:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex is not the only reason someone will cheat,,may use it as an excuse when caught,,,and I do not agree with any excuse for cheating,,if the person wants to "play" the field,,they never should have gotten married,,,and if you knowingly date someone who was a "cheater" before,,,do you really think that person will change for you??,,,,,,,,sorry just being honest
2006-10-03 04:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by kkahn9dodge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope if the sex is there, there is no reason to go out and cheat. i think men cheat because they dont get enough at home.
2006-10-03 04:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by TONY L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship.... Alot of factors go into cheating. Like if the other half does not talk or listen to you or if he/she is abusive. I don't know alot about it because I have never been in the situation
2006-10-03 04:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by bdbarbie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋