little boobs..what kind of bra is appropriate at this age. she is 10-1/2. should i get a bra with a little padding so the nipples won;t stick out? she is very conscious about her body too. She said her arms are big..and that she's fat. well..she is 100 pounds and 4ft 9 and she's devastated this morning! I told her that she will grow taller and weigh less by the time she's 13 and that she is not fat. she's not fat. she's jut muscular..ohmyg! this is worrying me. as I don't want her to be unhappy. please help..what can i do? she eats healthy. I suggested that after school we could put on some music and dance for an hr to feel good mentally.
2006-10-03 03:47:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
this would be a great padded bra for a ten year ld it looks alot like my first bra. time to really talk to her about her poor body image. girls are always vey hard on themselves about looks at this age. reassure her that its all normal and its ok. share your expereinces of puberty with her.
2006-10-03 04:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 11 year old wears a bra with padding. I was totally not ready for her to grow up, but it happens without our permission. She's getting to that age where girls are very judgmental about each other so it takes the feelings of self-consciousness off of them. True, girls ~shouldn't~ feel that way at such a young age, but the truth is they do.
The best you can do is let your daughter know she is beautiful. Make sure the male figures in her life do the same. Teach her proper hygeine and set clear boundaries where her body is concerned. Let her know up front what your rules are for make-up, etc. Keep food choices healthy without being too restrictive. You're right, it will all balance out and she will be fine.
Sometimes she has to have the feelings so she knows that life isn't always about someone jumping to make her happy. It's an emotional time, and this is just the beginning.
2006-10-03 04:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by dbackbarb 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Puberty has started, I am so glad that I am almost two years ahead of you...my daughter went through the same thing. I got her bra's in the children's section that had padding on them...I can remember when it was me, and the bra's that we had...wasn't worth wearing them, cause the nipples would still stick out. I would just talk to her and reasure her that she is not fat and still a beautiful little girl.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-03 08:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a wonderful idea for you to dance around for an hour for exercise. If she is muscular, is there some sport that she likes that she might be good at? As for the bra issue, DEFINITELY get her something with padding. I can't even imagine how she might be teased for the nipple issue.
2006-10-03 04:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little padding in the bra might help her be less self concienous, and it doesn't hurt anything. I started wearing a bra in fifth grade and it'll make the transition to middle school gym class easier also. Changing is a lot easier and less embarassing if you've got a bra on.
2006-10-03 03:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by dolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she sees it, others do too. Get her a real bra with light padding before the kids start to tease her. As for her weight, don't make it an issue and it won't be. If she continues to complain go to a park or track and walk for an hour or enroll her in some activity. Good luck to you.
2006-10-03 03:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by ChicaLoca 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit your daughter down and give her a talk. Kids should not be that worried about looks and even if they are the parents should put an end to it. If you give in and let her shave her legs, get her a bra, ect. she will only grow to be extremely self conscious. She's saying she's fat? Kids should not be that concerned that they are only 10 and think they are fat. Talk with her and explain to her that looks aren't everything. First it starts with letting her shave her legs, then getting a padded bra, then it goes to "I'm fat..I'm going on a diet", then it goes to "My hair isn't good enough", then it goes to "I'm not pretty enough", and so on and so forth. I grew up with girls like that---they have eating disorders now and they weren't even worrying about their weight/size until they were in their teens. Your daughter is only 10 and already worrying. You need to stop it before it gets even more out of hand.
2006-10-03 03:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's appropriate, just make sure it's a dark colored sports bra... if a white sports bra gets sweaty, it'll become see through O.o
2016-03-27 03:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter started wearing a sports bra in 1st grade..I was an "EARLY BLOOMER" as was she...You need to get her a bra with some padding..as for her weight...DON'T make a big deal about it...BE glad..cause when she turns about 13-14..she's gonna loose that baby fat...and THEN your trouble has JUST BEGUN!!!
2006-10-03 08:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think media are so much to blame for the teens problems these days. Being slim, pretty and fashionable is so much an issue that's no wonder kids are going crazy. It hurts me to see how girls are walking around in mid winter with bare midriffs!!! I suggest sport is the best way to keep a kid mentally happy. Or may be some activity that will take her mind off "the problems".
2006-10-03 04:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by leoluna 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋