How should I sign a bridal shower gift?

Question

I am invited to my fiance's cousin's bridal shower this weekend. What I want to know is do I sign both our names to the gift and card or just mine?

Answer 1

If you are the only one invited (women only shower) then I suggest you sign the card with just your name. Your fiance is not invited, therefore the gift is from you and only you.

If it was a "jack & jill" shower where you were both invited but he could not attend for some reason, then both of your names would appear on the card.

She should definitely know who you are because your name will appear on the wedding invitation as well (typically, if you are engaged then both of your names are included on the wedding invite). But if you are concerned about her not knowing who you are, you could certainly make a note under your name:

Best Wishes!
Shannon
(___'s fiance)

If he's not invited it is not proper to include his name on the gift.

Answer 2

Bridal Shower Signs

Answer 3

Actually this is really up to the couple. A lot of times at bridal showers since it is usually only girls there only the woman sign the card. But in my case I always have my husband sign the card (even when he was my fiance) because that is just the way we are. I like for things to be from the both of us, not just from me!

Answer 4

You could sign just your first name because apparently they know who you are by sending the invitation to you. If you feel that they will not know who you are, sign your first and last name, then put fiance' of (_________), under your name, and your fiance' should help pay for it if you put his name on the card. If he doesn't want his name on it, then spend less money and have gift from just you, or send your regret's and do not go, you are not obligated to send a gift unless you have RSVP'd that you are attending, then you must send a gift as they have counted on you being there and payed for your meal, that would be the gracious thing to do. Don't go with the feeling that you have to invite this person to your shower when it's your turn, that is not what showers' are about....make your's special and personal, you will be glad you did, only invite people that you share your life with...it's not about getting more gifts. Hope this will help you. Congratulation's on your Engagement, Best of Luck to You!

Answer 5

First, sometimes bridesmaids go into a gift together and instead of getting her a few smaller items, they combine their money to buy one big item like the pot and pan set or professional mixer. I would ask the Maid of Honor if there is any plan like this. Second, you can always go the registry route. It's the most common and this way you can be sure you get something she likes (she picked it!) and you can choose what to spend (most brides register for an assortment of things in different price ranges). But you can always go for something original. You are her best friend and you are a bridesmaid so do you know of something she needs/wants that you can help with? One of my bridesmaids was in town for the shower and i happened to be picking up my wedding shoes the day she was with me. While there she sprang for the matching handbag for me. It's not something I would have spent money on for myself but it was something I loved and not something anyone else would have thought to get for me. Does your bride have her toasting glasses, her throw garter or her cake set? As for a wedding gift, most people (speaking from my own personal experience) give cash for the wedding gift. Few will want to walk into a reception w/ a wrapped gift so they will put some cash or a check in a card for the couple. If you don't like that idea you can go the gift certificate route. Find out where they are going on a honeymoon and get them a gift certificate for couples massages, to a show or for a good dinner. Most people spend what the couple spent on their plate at the wedding (within reason, if a couple has a $250/head wedding no one is expected to give that much in return). Between $50-$100 per person is appropriate if you can afford it.

Answer 6

If you were the only one who was invited to the bridal shower, yours is the only name that goes on the card. If it is one of the newer "couples showers" where both you and your fiance are going to attend, then both names go on the card. Basically, the bride-to-be simply needs to know who attended the shower and who to thank. With everything going on, she probably won't remember who was there or who gave what.

Answer 7

I would and DO sign both my name and my husbands name. Even when we were not married. I just think it is nice that both names go on the card because you are both thinking about the new couple. Who cares who was invited...or what is proper....go with your heart....sign both names. When you have your shower and just invite the female....think about when you open the card...would you think it were funny to see both of their names? I think it is nice......they are a couple. Congratulations on your engagement......enjoy the planning process and don't sweat the small stuff like this =)

Answer 8

For a bridal shower you only sign your name, you were the only one invited. For the wedding it would be both names

Answer 9

My opinion is: If you are paying for and giving the gift you should sign your name only. If you and your fiance are purchasing the gift together, sign something like "Your Cousin Joe" and then write your name after that.

Answer 10

If only your name was on the invitation, then sign your name. If both names were on it, sign both, and make him pay half. If you each received a separate invitation, then you can go together and buy one gift. It all depends upon the invitation.