Girls lying - How many men they slept with?

Question

This is mainly for girls to answer, but guys may comment.
Would any of you girls tell the truth if a guy you were interested in asked "How many guys you been with"? Be honest, and if you would lie, why? Shouldn't honesty be important?

Answer 1

Sorry guys, but I would never answer that question no matter who was asking. No ones business. And I wouldn't ask any man that question either. The past is past, which is why they call it the past. Certain things are a given, such as he would know about my ex-husband, etc....but I don't believe anyone should have to provide another person a "score card." I wouldn't lie about it, I just wouldn't answer.

Answer 2

I would reccommend never asking this question. The truth is, it doesn't matter what-so-ever how many men she has been with. this day in age you can't expect a girl to be a virgin, and so long as she has been tested for STDs, then there is no reason to be concerned with her 'number.'

Trust me, most guys will claim 'it's not that I care, I'm just curious' and well, if you don't care drop the curiosity because it will only bother you and fuel jealousy - an emotion which is never productive in any relationship.

All you need to know is that she is now with you, and isn't a virgin so she should know what she's doing - which is a good thing. Whether she's been with 5 guys or 15, it shouldn't change anything, so you are best off not knowing.

Answer 3

Here's my position on this:

1.) Why does it matter how many men a woman slept with? Does a certain # make her unattractive? Does a certain # equate to she either a) she is great in bed and loves sex, or b) she's inexperienced?

2.) If you truly loved a woman, would you love her any less if she had slept with the # that you consider "too many?"

3.) If you asked her and she told you the truth, would it change anything?

Here's the thing: WE ALL HAVE A PAST! And the older we get sometimes our pasts become more complicated with #'s, sitations, children, etc. My philospohy on the # of people you selpt with question is: I am personally an open book. I will tell you anything you ask me! Anything you want to know. However, don't ask me a question you think you MIGHT not like the answer too. I love my boyfriend and he loves me. Case closed. We have briefly discussed some of our sexual pasts, and although he is a little older then I, I believe I am more sexually experienced then he is. I don't really care how many women or what types of women are in his past. I love him. And knowing that # wouldn't change a thing. I am however thankful for that # of women he got to "practice" with because he sure knows what he is going with me! I will never stray because not only do I love him, he is very enticing behind closed doors!

Be open minded...

Answer 4

Honesty is the best policy I agree but some girls lie when they know a guy lying too. I have never lied about something like that I have been with nine different guys including my current BF, three one night stands, three ex boyfriends and two ex husbands

Answer 5

If a woman or a man will lie about something like that...then they will lie about everything else too! Something that important needs to be discussed early on in the relationship to avoid any STD's that may result and prevent. It is totally irresponsible to lie about this. No, I would not lie. Honesty is very important in any relationship.

Answer 6

I have to disagree with some of these people...If you ask early on in a relationship and find out she's slept with 41 people ...It shows a history of little or no self control...you might wanna run..or if you like her that much you might wanna stay..only you can make that call...Its part of being a male ..we gather as much information as we can when making decisions and then decide based on what we know..that's how we function..Girls..they make decisions based off emotion..how they feel about a subject...It will come up..and honesty is very important...

Answer 7

Honesty is very important but it's none of either one's business how many you've been with. Maybe later down the road you may talk about it and then tell, but not at first. The number may make you judge them and that's not right. Get to know that person first before you start criticizing ya know???

Answer 8

Honesty *is* important. So I never lie.

HOWEVER. There have been several guys who asked and then couldn't handle the answer. But I know as soon as a guy asks: he's not the one for me.

Why? Because it shouldn't matter, as long as I can be faithful to him and I don't have any nasty diseases to pass along. (And if I did have a nasty disease, it still wouldn't matter. You can get one of those your first time out.) And whether I can be faithful doesn't depend on the notches on my belt.

So, I'm truthful, when they ask. And then when that part of the conversation is resolved, I ask them to take me home and lose my phone number.

Answer 9

Women are still considered ho's if they slept with anything more than one. Men are still considered sowing their wild oats and are looked at with some curiosity if they haven't landed more than one chick. Just messed up but that's the thinking still.

With that in mind, I think it's pretty tacky for anybody to ask anybody how many they've slept with. It's just tacky. If you really want the truth, expect to get hurt. And men are tricky - they say they can handle the truth but in reality, they get funny over knowing one too many men have hit it before them and can't help but think the worst when they're feeling vulnerable.

So in short, no comment.

Answer 10

I tried telling the truth.. It's not like I've been sleeping with the whole city or something but I just didn't want my boyfriend to know because when i was with him I was a virgin and when we broke up I slept with someone and when we got back 2gether I was on this dry spell.. and when we broke up again, i slept with someone else.. So that's only two but he doesn't know about the second one and I don't want to tell him neither