You see, he is older than me and not sure whether to get involved but I think I have come on a little too strong and wondered what to do as I really don't want to miss out on a date/relationship with him. He is a neighbour and we don't know each other well but we have spent a few evenings in and had lots of cuddles. He says he likes me but wants to get to know me and see how it goes but how can I get him to spend time with me? How shall I win him round and make him want me as I know he is attracted to me. Do I play it cool and let him chase me? But what about if he doesn't? This is so hard. I haven't liked a guy this much for ages. Please help all of you!!!! x
2006-10-03 03:31:00 · 16 answers · asked by Vicki S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let him know that you like him and then let him decide what he wants to do about it. Dont come on too strong!
2006-10-03 03:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... this can be a tough position. What is the age differance between you and him?
I am 24, and a girl liked me once and she was 16. I had to turn her down because of the age difference. She was at the College phase, and I have passed all the 'going out', 'getting drunk' phase. I had a feeling she would miss out on all these things if she was with me... and as far as I recall, she is enjoying herself now.
I am not saying that he may be like that with you due to age differance, but if you have spent a few nights in and had some cuddles, I dont see any reason why the two of you are not official items?
It seems a bit confusing to me. He obviously likes you according to your question, and I dont see any reason for you two not to be boyfriend/girlfriend AND see how things go gently.
Keep it simple for now and stick to simple things like watching a film or whatever you two normally do together. If things dont seem to improve, You may need to have a quiet, mature conversation with him, and understand what your position is. If he keeps mucking about, I dont think he will like you as much as you would want him to.
I hope it works out for you... and make sure he really likes you and respects you as a girlfriend before you take the relashionship 'further'. I think you get what I mean?
All the best!!
2006-10-03 03:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing it cool is going to send the wrong message; if he is either shy, or respectful or both, he won't chase through an amber or red light. Just be friendly and take his advice about getting to know each other. If you might be together for life, it doesn't matter much if you waste a few weeks to get the beginning right.
I was 40 and on the shelf when the girl I secretly fancied sent me a Birthday card, and now we're happily married with 2 kids, but we started off where you are, so don't give up.
2006-10-03 03:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by cdrotherham 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have spent evenings with him and cuddled you have already broken the ice, this however could you be your leverage in to communicating your true feelings. You should tell me how you feel and if he felt the prospect of spending more time and basically getting to know you would give him the chance to assess your relationship, this good be a positive move for you and may lead to a relationship which you could have as long as you play your cards right and give him what he wants, however at the same time you need what you want and he needs to be aware of this. If you like this guy so much you should give it your best. My fingers are crossed for ya. xxx
2006-10-03 05:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Y! Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start stop panicking, he is still next door and he is still alone. I was 52 when I met a girl of 26, she really wanted me but I held off because she was too young for me, I kept seeing her out with her Mum and sometimes I bumped into her at the local Supermarket, Then one day she called me to help her out with her car, " I am sure you can find something he can help you with" I called round, I got the car started she was grateful and asked me to stay for coffee, then confessed to really enjoying my company and wishing we could be together more often, it took 2 years for me to let her move in and 10 years for her to leave, we are still great friends and we both have new partners. So my advice is do not rush it , take your time and find excuses to be with him without making it obvious that you want to sleep with him, one of these days something will happen that will make you click. BINGO!!!!
2006-10-03 03:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Roberto b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already enjoyed evenings in together, with cuddles, then it may be worth inviting him round for a relaxed meal and a dvd. If you ask him, try to make it not sound like a date. Try to make it sound as if youve just thought of the idea and then hopefully he wont feel to much pressure. Good luck.
2006-10-03 04:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by dynamitesi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you it will happen, be patient, getting to know each other is the best thing, sometimes the feelings of attraction are so strong that you can't keep your hands off each other thats it hard to say one thing and do another!
2006-10-03 04:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by ball_cathie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same predicament. Let him come after you. Age is just a number. You never know unless you try. Just don't get too attached untill you think that you have won his heart. Good Luck.
2006-10-03 03:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool, but not overcool. If you can cook, then having him round for dinner is a good way to start! Just don't get too drunk - and take things slowly!
2006-10-03 03:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by bovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋