My girlfriend tries to control me by using sex as part of her tactics. Is that fair?...She wants to have sex when she wants to, not when I want to most of the time.. When we get mad at each other, instead of coming together for sexual healing, she puts on me some kind of "Puzzy probation", to where im not able to have sex with her untils she feels like it...Why do women do this?.. And women wonder why men cheat..Women who denies sex is the main root of why men cheat.. Men figure; "ok, I'm denied sex with the women I love, i guess I'll have sex with someone who shows me attention"... I know a lot of men reading this can relate to me.. You women need to stop trying to control us men with sex...
2006-10-03 03:29:26 · 12 answers · asked by Just_Asking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then you have to deny them what they like. That being presents, dates, attention.
They hold back, you hold back.
The problem with women is that they have it good but keep on pushing so they get their way on everything.
However, they're also very emotional.
If a woman is holding off sex you say something like "Well, I guess I'll go out with my friends then." Then go out and tell her you went to a strip club. :P
2006-10-03 03:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not fair. well, if you want to have sex whenever you want to, you still can. try to comfort her or something. do whatever she likes and you might get to have sex with her. i personally do not know about what she thinks. honestly, no one knows exactly what is in her mind unless she tells you the truth. about "women who denies sex is the main root of why men cheat" is not entirely true. i'm a man and if my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me, i won't blame her. and there's no way to cheat because i love her so much. anyways, u can't always think that men cheat because their girlfriend don't want to have sex. i will cheat on my girlfriend if she's into another guy or if i feel that my relationship is not woth it anymore. think of something else instead of sex all the time. there's so much thing to do besides having sex with your girlfriend.
2006-10-03 10:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by themadman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably the number one complaint of men. A wife gets mad at her hubby and cuts him off, then wonders why he cheats. Ladies wake up communicate verbally with us men we would rather know why your mad than wonder why we arent getting any sex. Worse yet a man marries a woman and has no recourse to fulfill his sexual desires other than her. Now she stops the sex and he is like a lost ship at sea.
2006-10-03 10:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I agree on you being mad for her only wanting it when she wants it. She is thinking of herself only and that's not right. When 2 people are in love, you do things for each other unconditionally. She shouldn't 'cut you off' but you guys do need to talk about this. It's not fair to either one of you. What happens that makes her mad? Maybe you should start there with her and see what the root of the problem is. You guys need better communication. Everyone does. We're working on that now and trying to learn each other. (we've been together 6 months) It's important for you to open up to her and tell her how you feel. Trust me, she'll respect you for opening up and trusting her, so then in turn she will open up to you!
2006-10-03 10:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about what I call PE. Perceptions and expectations. I've never done that intentionally, however, I have needed time to get past being angry over an issue. Sex would be the last thing on my mind while sorting out my thoughts and feelings towards someone who fvcks up and pisses me off.
Stop whining and take her some flowers, it's not all about you.
2006-10-03 10:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it goes both ways, homie. you can please yourself and not have to go out looking for it else where. if you love her? if you do cheat, then maybe you should end the relationship cause it sounds like you don't want to be in it anyway. it also sounds like this relationship is not the best situation to be in. it's more difficult then sounds, i know . it's easy to grow attached to somebody you love, but it's only going to get worse unless you do something about it. figure what turns her on, besides control. try compromise, and that may be the solution, or just talk to her. i'm sure there is more to this then you are recognizing!!!
2006-10-03 10:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a shared thing tell her. its not hers or yours its something to share.........and that takes two..then ask her what sharing means to her?? Sex is the coming together of two people not one...and its a shared act between usually two people and then tell her that its a cruel thing to say no sex until you learn your lesson.. tewll her thats using a shared passion against you which is not correct or morally right
2006-10-03 10:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by cleo_alter_ego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they would have figured it out by now. They can try to control men with sex but it don't work. Eventually we stray, "kick a dog enough and eventually it will bite."
2006-10-03 10:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can go on WITHOUT sex. Neither can she. Retaliate by holding off on sex too. Show her that she doesn't have the upper hand when it comes to sex. Sex should be mutual.
2006-10-03 10:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to say i am a women and i have never put my husband on "puzzy probation" so i couldnt tell you from experiance but ican say they might think it would hurt you as much as they were hurt by the fight
2006-10-03 10:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by aleym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋