My son is 3 years old. At home he is wonderful. From time to time he will test limits but for the most part he is great. However , at daycare and inchildrens church he is the total opposite. He is stubborn and uncooperative. The teachers say he is very defiant and oppositoinal and sometimes fights with the other kids. im not sure what to do but really need advice.
2006-10-03 01:38:33 · 5 answers · asked by big country 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think he needs to be watched for a whole day by you, and the day care person together...........Let him think you are just talking to her...Don't let him see you staring at him all the time.........There may be another kid who is bullying him and no one knows it.....it could even be a girl ! And while you are there, allow the daycare worker to discipline him no matter what..Stay out of it...That will tell you sojmething also...Tell her you won't discipline while you are there that day if you see him do something wrong...............(.They may need to praise him more than they do).....Sometimes they yell at kids more than praise because they are use to that kid doing something wrong all the time...............And while the teacher is disciplining your son, kind of look away, but don't (Act like you are looking at the kid near him) that way he will not change his behavior while you are there
There is a reason, and you will find it...If he is an angel that day, then plan to go the next day(take 2 vacation days) It's important..
2006-10-03 01:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 19:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should reiterate what you expect from him infront of teachers at school and church so he know they know you expect him to behave.
I am having the same problem (except its at home too) and I am just trying consistant punishment and teaching him the same rules apply no matter where he is.
Good luck. I'm keeping a look out for ideas.
2006-10-03 04:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried corner time in other words time out ? And tell him this is what children who misbehave have to do. If he still misbehave take things away like his favorite t.v. show and etc... and keep doing this untill his behavior improves and if he is good for awhile and then goes back to misbehaving do it again untill he gets the idea.
2006-10-03 01:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids do that. They see how much they can get away with when mommy and daddy aren't around. Then they see what they can get away with you. My dad watched my daughter this weekend, and he said she was being bad. I told him that she was trying to see what she could get away with while he watched her, since he rarely watches her.
2006-10-03 01:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋