I'm single and hating it.I once, fell in love with a girl who had the perfect sence of humar.It was love that I could feel,but,after nine months she broke up with me for a friend of main.After her nothing else felt right accept being alone,in the dark,single.I've tried goin' out with othr girls.They loved me but the feeling was and still is not the same.Infect now I feel I don't get the love to give out,ont even from my family and friends.
2006-10-03 01:17:26 · 21 answers · asked by Emotion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Getting your heart broken is not an easy thing. Alot of people act like you should just bounce right back into the dating scene without feeling any sort of sadness, hurt, anger etc. from your past relationship. I know you are prolly tired of hearing this but times heals...really it does. You need time to recover from this. I can tell your hurt, you it seems that all your heart is full of hurt, not love. I just like to surround myself with my family and friends. I dont think its fair to date someone or go on dates when my heart isnt into it, so i just hung out with friends until i felt i was ready to go through the dating process again. And my dear,you will love again.....just have hope.
2006-10-03 01:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by dlite1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem like yours when I was in high school. I was dumped by my sweet heart and I could have dated countless others and I eventually did go out with a few. The mistake was that I always compared them to her and never looked at her flaws. The truth was that she was conceded and stuck on herself which tended to make her boyfriends feel insecure. They all ended up the same [like me]. In some ways she did me a big favor. I think you need to turn your perspective of her god like image around. Love is suppose to be equal and innocent. When we force the issue we tend to fail. Being alone isn't the worst thing in the world. Some of the strongest willed people in the world are forced to live alone. I am talking about children with cancer or other terrible diseases. If you look at it from that perspective living alone doesn't seem so bad.
2006-10-03 01:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever stop to think that you may still be "grieving" the loss of you first love? It is possible to hold those emotions for a long time. However, once you let it go, and I know that that is hard to do, you'll be better for it. Also, you can't make yourself love someone. It justs happens. Give yourself some time. I believe that there is a right moment in time for everything. When your moment comes, you'll be ready for it.
2006-10-03 01:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have been in that type of relationship it is hard to find that type of feeling again.....it will take time and it will come when you aren't looking for it. Remeber in the old movies when people use to fall in love at first sight....well it will be something like that but not as perfect.......just give it time, and live a little while you are waiting.
2006-10-03 01:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by phattybiggums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship of 16 yrs with 2 kids and never married, I have not been in love with my guy for some time so for you to feel it will never happen again will pass, you are young so you have to want to give it a chance, just know not everything is what it seems. Good luck!
2006-10-03 01:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Simple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this, but you are wallowing in self pity. Yes, you hurt and you have every right to be sad, mad, and even pitiful. However it will not help, you won't get better until you stop it and find some thing else to focus on. It's hard to love, especially after you feel you've lost the best thing in your life. But, it's not impossible to keep going and it's not impossible to find it again! You need to quit telling yourself that you have lost the ability and get out there, keep looking and believe you will find it again.
I promise you that you will succeed!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 01:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Justin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the love is not gonna feel the same, never, But it can feel different (and just as good or better). Try not to talk to ur date about past relationships, (unless she asks, and still dont dwell on it). And comfidence is everything too, feel comfident about the steps u take. Good luck
hope I have helped (just a bit)
2006-10-03 01:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you still need to have more time to get over it,try to banish everything on your mind,all the memories let it go and try to live your life once more like you've never met her,theres still a lot of things to look forward to,just pray,and everything will be alright.
2006-10-03 01:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by AmandaNikolah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are smart you will avoid it. I have rarely found a situation where being in love didn't end in pain lots of pain so why bother thats where I am at there is no reason to put yourself or anyone else through another broken heart buy a puppy when you feed and love them they lick your face they do not screw your friends..
2006-10-03 01:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i don't what to say, but it seem to me that there is more to this situation then u think it is. maybe the problem is loving urself first. i mean for someone to love others they have to love themselves first. try not think about ur first love and concentrate more on what u r looking for in a love one. and try not "love" the person the first day or week u meet them. try to get to know them before u go jumping to conclusions, hopefully feelings develop. about ur parents talk to them maybe they can get u good help, or talk to ur pastor or even to God. wish u luck.
2006-10-03 01:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋