I feel so terrible and confused. I cannot believe that he beautiful moment I shared with him changed the form to such a painful ending. It is killing me not to call him and to hear him speaking to me. I know I can call him, but I do not want him to remember me as a weak girl, but want to go back to my confident self to be friends. I am finding it difficult to cope with everyday life tasks like going to work. I did not go to work today and feel so sad. Please give me some advice to feel better and secure. I feel so lost.
2006-10-03 01:12:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went out with someone who was not completely healed from his previous relationship. I used to listen to him and he realised that maybe the feeling he had towards me was not something amorous, and he wanted to explore himself to be himself before his broken relationship. We decided to be freinds, but it has been difficult for both of us to come to the conclusion mentally and physically, but we decided to take a big leap and finished this weekend. We are currently hoping to go abck to friends again.
2006-10-03 01:17:35 · update #1
Pappillonray:
I feel your pain. My eyes are not dry as I write this. The pain of a lost love is almost beyond endurance. When that icy wind blows through our heart and mind, it creates a dark and chilling environment that cannot be adequately described to those not going through the process.
Let me help you. I am going through such a trial, and I understand the debilitating effect it can have on your life. Let's admit that this event is bigger than we are, and will temporarily limit our ability to function as complete human beings. You simply must allow for a full expression of the grieving process.
It may involve screams of anger, violent sobbing, copious tears,
moping, sleeping....please allow your heart the gift of grieving. Take some time off work, if necessary. There is a lot at stake.
Your heart is resilient, and will heal if you cleanse away the bitterness and sorrow through your tears. One day you will wake up, still sad, but the icy wind will have dissipated, and a fresh new breeze will blow across your heart. It may take some time, but you have a lifetime ahead of you, and I promise that it will be filled with a rich and rewarding love life shared by a man that truly loves you. Never underestimate the power of love!
2006-10-03 01:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by The Heart Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Lost-
I know exactly how you are feeling. I've been there. It's hard to know that the person that you hold so dear to your heart will no longer have that one place in your life where you want them the most. I also know that at times if feels hopeless and you feel lost. BUT, you are anything but weak. You have taken the first step to recovering from heartbreak and that is to seek help. You need to remember that you are human and that you are grieving a loss. The key is not to let it pull you under. It sounds like it is dangerously close to going there. When I found myself where you are, I had a serious decision to make, either wallow in it or rise above it. I chose the latter. I found things to keep me busy and I had friends that I could call and "vent" to. They became my lifeline. Perhaps you have someone that you trust that can help talk you through this or just someone who is willing to listen. You need to get it out. There are two things that you need to do. One, always remember that it will get better and you won't always feel this way. Secondly, remember to breathe. Don't let this loss destroy you. And don't rush into being friends with this person until you are confident that your grief is behind you. I know it can be done and I am confident that you have it in you to get past this. Just give yourself some time.
2006-10-03 01:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that dear.
Calling a guy won't make you weak. He may be thinking the same. One has to break the barrier to share the sweet moments again. Why not you first?
If you still don't want to call, do somethings which you have been planning for ages and could not do. Don't drink alcohol when you are alone, that will make you depressed. Go to gym or some sort of sports and you will feel a lot better very soon.
2006-10-03 01:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by cosmoboyin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really sympathise with you,getting over a broken heart is the hardest thing one can ever go thru, especially knowing that the moments, the smallest things you used to do regularly are gone.by calling him does'nt mean u are weak, u r just trying to get over your hurt ur way.talk to someone and if u think u will be too weak get a good friend who won't mind talking to u anytime of the day.best medicine is to keep talking about it,it helps.
2006-10-03 01:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by casey4396 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to take back your confidence I suggest a hot new dress pretty new shoes and an evening out either with the girls or by yourself good luck seewt heart I am still broken.
2006-10-03 01:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we hear so often, "time heals all wounds", it truly does. Stay busy, go to work, get together with good friends and don't allow yourself to obsess about him. You will get over this and will probably go through this many, many times before you marry. You'll be fine, stronger and better for all of this, trust me.
2006-10-03 01:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are feeling this way, which is normal for the event.
Time will heal your broken heart. Just get busy and stay busy.
Peace.
2006-10-03 01:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should spend time with family! try to stay strong in the process you will be stronger than ever without him in your life! Stay friends with him if you want to! take a vacation!
2006-10-03 05:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep yourself busy. go out with friends. erase his number on your phone and let him call you. do some other things that will consume all your time so that it wont come on your mind...
2006-10-03 01:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm get over it and be strong ...depends on what he did or you, if you want to be friends with him. go ahead but if he is happy and dont want to be bothered. dont even try.. i know how females are ....hence iam one
2006-10-03 01:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋