that its always the most obnoxious arrogant horrible men are the ones that approach you in a club or pub?? You know the ones - the leery snakes with lecherous hands.
I know the nice guys are more reserved and mannerly but Im so sick of the horrid guys approaching me Id fall down the ground thanking God if a nice guy had enough confidence to chat me up!!!
Nice guys - come on!!!!! Why are ye always so shy and scared of knockbacks - Im telling ye - you'd be surprised at how happy us girls would be if ye got the guts to chat us up!!!!
2006-10-03 00:36:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just knew this question would split both ways - girls in agreement - guys against!!!
Poster 22 - I sound boring? Whatever love - if thats the most original comment you can come up with god help you!
2006-10-03 00:58:22 · update #1
First - very pretty women as yourself( looking at your Avatar) turn down or tell normal guys to buzz off
Second- if you see a normal looking guy -how come you cannot talk first
Third- it takes( the truth ) about 2-4 beers of courage to get the ability to talk to a pretty woman before she turns us down
Fourth - I sat and watch a woman turn down 7 guys --( some better than myself) so I told my buddy, ok, its my turn to be shunned-- but she accepted and then it was an all nighter
2006-10-03 01:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because the obnoxious ones go to the clubs etc, they are simply after one thing!
Nice guys do not go to the clubs, they would rather a decent wine bar, or live music pub than a noisy testosterone fuelled pub/club!
And what stops the lady from approaching the man, yes I am shy and would not approach a lady in a pub/club etc.
2006-10-03 00:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nick B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Us nice guys are always waiting for some sign, from your part. A smile, even buy a drink , instead of waiting there for us to always approach, for us to come and say the first hello. Why don t you approach the person that is of intrest to you, the one that you believe might be the one, instead of sitting with your friends and grading us, as hard as it is for you to approach a pack of wolves to talk to the nice one, it is the same for us to try to approach a herd of lions, looking for the tame one. The reason is you dont like or want to feel rejected, well that is the same for us. So instead of waiting , get up and make the first move.
2006-10-03 00:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by anastacioss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont go to pubs matter of fact other than work i dont go out much at all..tired of when you do go out look at a girl sideways and you r made to feel like you are a guy looking to pick up..i feel sleezy guys have ruined it for us who can treat a woman amazing but never get the chance...for me ive been alone not where i wish for 10 yrs and ive fallen in love many times and been hurt every time but i dont give up ,i now wait for someone to find and choose me .....lonely as it is sometimes and i miss someones companionship, im being who i need to be, im living my life and if someone did decide to invite me into thier everything i wouldnt walk away and destroy the relationship because im sure of what i want from life, always wished and dreamed for a life but never given a chance...girls leave me beceause i want to much,not because i am bad or cant love or cant treat a girl good because apparently i'm told im amazing,unlike most guys, a great catch,a wonder im still alone but if im all that well how come someone wont love me and want a life with me ...i dont understand
2006-10-03 01:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys care about creating an uncomfortable environment for others. Obnoxious people don't really give a monkey's so they are willing to make a fool of themselves and so, by the law of averages, they appear to be more successful.
2006-10-03 05:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will approach a girl if I like the look of her and have a chat with her, Some men have no conscience and dont mind getting rejected, some do!
2006-10-03 01:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes with the territory. The obnoxious ones work on odds. They only need one yes in 20 asks. The nice guys don't wanta be a bother to you
2006-10-03 00:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by The Guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yupo, caus in the pubs there are men who are "hip" "hard" and "cool dogy dog dog" lol when in fact they are ******. lol people say im nice, and i keep to myself, cause im not arrogant, lol i know there is a boundary from arrogant to completely shy, but im not the one to chat up girls, it may be caus im only a teen, or it could be i was brought up quiet, and nice but also shy by my parents, i kinda got the same q for girls, some really nice girls are out there, and they arent only interested in sEx, which is good. but mainly are the sL uTs that are on the prowl. lol
2006-10-03 01:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by nathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for? Chat them up yourself......why do girls always wait for guys to chat them up? Have you ever thought that the nice and shy guys might be waiting for a girl to approach them? Try it...be polite....with good manners and don't show that you want ''another'' things.....and chat him up! You want same rights and you can't even chat a guy up? i do it every time....it's really nice!
2006-10-03 00:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here! Here! Everytime I go out to a club or a pub I always get these mingin horrible men who come up to me and think they can flirt away and touch me!! I was out the other night and waiting for a taxi and this guy came over and hugged me and asked me to come back to his hotel. I said no way and when a taxi pulled over me and my mate got in it and this guy jump in it and told the taxi driver back to his hotel we told the taxi driver we didnt know him so he chuck him out.....Sorry I am going on abit but it really annoys me. I dont think pubs are that bad, its clubs mainly....x
2006-10-03 00:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋