I had a friend thats from another country UAE. Her name is Nisha V. She and I started off as friends, and then well were intimate for months. Then attempted friendship again... shes now in Ala attending Montevello.. ( i thinkI spelled that right.) well anyway. She doesnt remember alot of stuff that happened between us which hurts cause I even protected her from some idiate room mates and their friends, and even dinner at times. Because of a condition she has she doesnt remember things. Well, everytime I speak to her I mean, I know I said Id be there if I can when she needs me and I will. But it hurts my heart SO much cause I cant have her for my own. She is DEFINETLY wife material, and well cause of the pain, thats why I finally broke off our friendship she'll never know how much I Loved her thats a real painful truth. But well, I was wondering was I over reacting? When I did break off our friendship.
2006-10-03 00:15:03 · 10 answers · asked by haloengine7496 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you want to be a machine, than you have to mechanize yourself.
One would say "man is not a machine, it has feelings."
Youre hurt, but from time to time try to be a machine and do something which is tehnically OK but emotionally isnt.
Try to stay friend with her, although it hearts. Its good in the long run. If it doesnt kill you, itll just make you stronger - emotionally
Belive me.
2006-10-03 00:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mudri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok she haves a medical condition that causes her to not be able to remember things, correct?? You broke the friendship off with her because it hurt you cause she could not remember all the things that happened between you and her including that you protected her????
It sounds like you knew from the start she haves a medical condition which causes her suffer from lack of memory. Then when you started to realize that she was not able to remember all the things you and her have done and what you have done for her, you felt hurt and blamed her. Therefor yes you are over reacting, you said it your self she haves a condition which causes her to not remember things. That is something you should either learn to deal with and handle or leave her alone completely. It sounds like you can not handle her condition therefor its best to move on.
2006-10-03 00:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously very troubled by this, however, this is a personal question that requires more information given in a strictly confidential setting. As an Imam I would be happy to try and help you come to some peace with this but it would have to be private. You can email me through my profile if you would like, please leave your email there if you would like to correspond on this subject.
In the meantime, if you are Muslim then you should pray the Istikhara prayer for guidance in this matter.
And Allah knows best.
Peace and Blessings,
Salim
2006-10-03 00:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by إمام سليم چشتي 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be her friend without needing more and she is not able or interested in giving more then you did the very best thing. If you kept this up the way you are feeling now, you would never look for someone else that will work out better for you.
Move on and be hopeful!
2006-10-03 00:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by tami 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love this woman so much, then I do not understand why you did not pursue her as a wife. It seems to me that you had a solid relationship with her, that it was personal and not long distant, like some sort of mail order type deal.
2006-10-03 00:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. there was a Lady I thought was " the one " but turned out She wasn't. the hurt will be there for a period of time and one never forgets the one loved. however, the wheel turns and life goes on and there will be a new love interest who may be better than the old. just hope and pray and eventually all will be well.
2006-10-03 00:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU SOUND LIKE YOU REALLY LOVED THIS GIRL BUT I'M NOT BEING FUNNY BUT IF SHE CAN'T RREMEMBER WHAT YOU ALL HAVE DONE LETS SAY YOU DO MARRY IN A YEAR WILL SHE EMEMBER IF YOU GO TO WORK WILL SHE CHEAT WITH THE MAIL MAN NOT KNOWING SHE MARRIED I THINK YOU MADE A HARD BUT WISH CHOICE SORRY DUDE
2006-10-03 00:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by karate_rich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I understood WHAT you are asking. But, I think you should move on cuz it sounds like you made a mistake and she isn't willing to forgive you.
2006-10-03 00:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by sewshawn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to watch 50 first dates...
2006-10-03 00:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by shortymaciam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you should go back and tap that poony. You gotta take the trim when it's offered.
2006-10-03 00:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋