we were having sex everytime we met.i gave myself to him because i love him,im not even sure if he loves me too.how will i make him fall in love with me?
2006-10-02 22:31:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You will not make him fall in love with you. You have allowed him to use you for sex. He was never your friend. Move on with your life.
2006-10-02 22:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i get your question correctly? Were you friends(Dating) for 9 months before you gave him your virginity or throughout the period you were friends from the day you first met, you were having sex?
Girl, its only you that can answer that question. If you claimed to be friends, you should have read btw the lines to see if the feelings were mutual. If you had started out as friends, its only you that know if you really have a connection(excluding sex ofcourse).
Try and not give yourself to him and say you want to talk about where all this is leading to. If he loves you, he'll share the same thoughts but if he grumbles and whines, he's not the one for you. Sex is intoxicating like alcohol but you should know its limits. You also complicated matters by losing your virginity to him which makes you bond to him and it would be harder to let go. But, the ball is in your court. Take care.
2006-10-02 22:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him fall in love with you. I'm sorry to inform you of this, but he doesn't sound like he is that into you. I know you think you love him because he was your first. Believe me, we all thought that about our first loves' too. It never lasts. The only thing that guy wanted to do was to have sex. Now that he has, he doesn't need you anymore. I'm sorry to sound so harsh, but this is the reality of it. You really should hold out until you are absoulutely sure the other guy loves you. Good luck.
2006-10-05 07:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men use friendship to lure girls just to get what they really want. But if you saw love in his eyes and found out that he really loves you in special ways (but it’s hard to define especially if the relationship/friendship starts in passion), well make it formal. I thought he is your friend? You shared time together and why not talk about it if he’s sincere to commit or not? At least you’re not confused. Ask him straight what you want to know and where this relationship will go. You have rights now to ask him because what you did is more than a friendship thing. And sex is for those who love each other and not for those who want to make other fall for them.
2006-10-03 01:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by herzae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel so sorry for you if he is not even your boyfriend even after nine months he is just using you for sex and I know you just said on the other question that your pregnant and want him to marry you. You need to talk to mother ask her to get you help because you have low-self esteem. I don't know if you know this about guys but just because they have sex with you doesn't mean they even care about you at all let alone love you. You need to just move on and stop thinking about him.
2006-10-03 04:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear that....you can't really force someone to like you...but you can try to think about this...some men are like that....when you suddenly show off , they get to use and dump you abruptly, but if you treat them cold and first make things hard for them they'll be attached and never knew they're already into you....stood up still....be strong....you are falling into a wrong guy....relationship shouldn't be as harsh as that....you can choose to be happy...it is your fate you are deciding on...with a "friend" like him you'd go nowhere and perhaps you're just gonna cry....so move on before it breaks you....he is like a thief, he came into your life and take evrything from you including your heart and soul...and after he got evrything he wanted he will leave you nothing but an empty body....try to move on ok....again love should not make you suffer that much!
2006-10-02 23:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First love is always hard. If you are happy in his company then carry on.
Very few people end up marrying their first love. Try and work on being yourself and having a variety of personal interests outside of love and sex, as being defined by your partner will only drive him away and make you unhappy. Being independant and interesting when not with him will make hime more interested in you.
2006-10-02 22:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mister Curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to love you. Plus from the sounds of it you just love the guy for sex anyways.
2006-10-02 22:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move on cause girl you can never make any man love you it there or its not and hunny ...he would just hate you in the end if you MADE HIM FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU
dont let him use you anymore move on to someone that loves you and want to be with you for who you are not what you tow are doing (( sex ))
best of luck to you
2006-10-03 01:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that every time you meet that it is not a phisical and more emotional. tell him that you dont want to do this every time and just go out once in a wile.
2006-10-03 00:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋