i was pregnant...we are both only 18,i am still studying and he's not.he dont even have a job but the matter is...he is the father of my baby.
2006-10-02 22:06:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you cant convince him, if you have to, then marrying him is not right to start with, he shouldn't need to be brow beaten to do that.been the father of your child does not mean he has to marry you, but he should shoulder some of the responsibility financially and get of his butt to go and get a job. he was man enough to make one make him be man enough to follow through
2006-10-02 22:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the father of your child should be reason enough for him step up and marry you. Along with getting a job to help support all of you. Being a single mom and a student is never any fun, or easy! My last gf who I see from time to time was in a similar situation with the father of her second child. Only he was a bum, and I stepped in to fill his shoes for a while. ( A little over a year ) As much as I love both of her kids, it just wasn't working out because I didn't love her, so I didn't want to make the mistake of marrying someone I knew that I could never truly love. If I did father any children by her, then of course I would step up to exchange wedding vows and rings. Regardless of my feelings toward her.
Bottom line, when two people create a new life, they are both responsible for the care of that child. At least that's what I was raised to believe even though my own parents divorced when I was about nine.
2006-10-02 22:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of your baby is the father of your baby. The greatest love of your life is still out there waiting. Think clearly, without your heart, do you want this man to marry you because you are having his baby, or do you want a real man to marry you because he loves you and can't live another day without you. Stop trying to convince your boyfriend to marry you. Convince yourself that you can be a good single mother, and move on with your life. And the right man will come along. I had 2 children when I met the love of my life.
2006-10-03 17:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u sure u want to get married to him, if u have to convince him to do it? r u sure he loves u, if u have to convince him to get married? r u sure u love him? if he doesn' t even have a job, r u sure he will help provide for ur family once u 2 r married? is be being and will continue to be a good father to ur child? u have to ask urself all these questions and also ask him. just because he is the father of ur child, doesn't mean that u absolutely have to marry him.
if the answers to all the questions r all posative answers, then honestly, there's nothing saying u can't ask him urself. or just straight out tell him that u want him to ask u to marry him. but if u really want him to ask u, suggest the idea as a 'what if' situation and ease him into the situation. let him know that u open to the idea of marriage with him.
i hope that since u went ahead and had sex with him and had his baby, that idea of a future together had come up in conversation with him before all that had happened. i wish u the best of luck with this all.
2006-10-02 22:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you, but no one can convince someone to marry them. You are having a baby with a boy who does not even have a job. He is obviously not responsible enough to be having a sexual relationship, if you are pregnant. He certainly is not husband and father material if you have to "convince" him to marry you. You need to learn to take care of yourself and your baby, he is financially responsible for your child, and that is all. If he was adult enough, and man enough to be your husband; you would not be pregnant and having to convince him to do anything. The "matter" is that he is not an adult and not responsible. Think of yourself and your child, and live your life. He may or may not grow up, but you have other things to think about now. Do not have unprotected sex with him, or any other man in your future. Good luck with the baby.
2006-10-02 22:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get married just because you are having a baby, you are both too young to make another majot decision and if you have to convince him to get married then it wouldn't be a good start to married life. Have the baby and then see what happens. Have a paternity test done to destablish the baby's father so that when he has a job he can contribute to the baby's upbringing. Good Luck.
2006-10-02 22:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to marry you. And why would you want to. You DESERVE to have a man ask you because he loves you, not because he thinks he has to. Just because you have a baby together doesn't mean you should be together. That is not a good reason to be with someone. As for some people who may tell you that you should be together for your baby, think of this if he isn't commited to you and your child then that is cheating your child out of a loving home. And that is what is best for a child.
2006-10-03 04:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince a guy to marry you he has to want to and if you do convince him wand he does marry you it will never be the same a guy has to do it out of his own want them you will truly know it's special. Also when will women learn having a child with a guy does not make him stay with you look at all the single mothers out there when will women learn. They make this thing called birth control.
2006-10-03 04:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of your question, i do no longer think of you're able to attempt to convince him to get married because of the fact it does not seem such as you desire to get married. the only reason you suggested for wanting this is the marriage. a marriage does not make a marriage. You 2 are already dedicated to a minimum of one yet another. do no longer stress marriage on him basically in view which you desire to play princess in front of your friends and family individuals for an afternoon. If, on the different hand, you desire to spend the the remainder of your existence with him and phone him your husband then tell him that. you may already be dedicated to a minimum of one yet another, however the regulation and society do no longer comprehend that. If certainly one of you have been to be hospitalized the next day, who could you desire to have the criminal means to make determination on the subject of your care (or sometimes even flow to you in the well-being center) ? If, god forbid, you have been to die who could inherit your maximum prized possession or get carry of existence coverage or government advantages as a result? base line is you're already dedicated to a minimum of one yet another and a ceremony or piece of paper won't replace or improve that. in spite of the undeniable fact that, there are criminal, financial, and societal advantages of being married (tax breaks, coverage, etc). If those issues are significant to then you definately in the experience that your courting is so staggering they could desire to be significant to him besides.
2016-10-18 09:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't _convince_ him to marry you and the sad truth is, if he doesn't want to, the only thing you can make him do is pay child support.
Have you told him you're pregnant? What was his reaction?
Good luck with your baby and studies, I hope your bf is not a jerk.
2006-10-02 22:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Derek K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋