I can't believe I'm about to ask this. Even though I doubt I know anyone here, I still feel like a loser about this.
I'm very socially awkward. I had very severe depression problems very early on in life, so when I should have been developing, socially, I was alone in my room. Now I don't really know what to do with flirting and dating and all that. I've had gf's and all that, but it's very hard for me to get the ball rolling. I don't really know how to act, or what to say. I normally get very nervious and say something stupid, or nothing at all. I don't really have any "game" ... I have no idea how to talk to women. When I do work up the courage to say something, I always feel that I come off nerdy or creepy, but I really have no way of knowning.
What really pisses me off is that I have no problem talking to the girls that I am not romantically attracted to.
What do you guys think I should do?
2006-10-02 22:06:05 · 6 answers · asked by TheFunniestGuyInPants 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are stressing too much dude. You are so hooked up on making the right impression that you fail miserably to do so. I would suggest that you should relax. Don't change who you are, people will accept you if you just act yourself. Be yourself around them and you will be fine. If you are having a hard time. Go to a club and try chatting up some girls at the bar. That way your confidence will build and it will get more easier if you want to approach the girls that you are attracted to. If you are comfortable being you and you accept that then it will be easier for people to talk to you. And if you should make a total idiot of yourself. Laugh about it, it will make you irrisistable to the chicks. Always talk about what interests you and what you like. That way you won't sound like a dork. You don't have to change who you are just to fit in. Best of luck amigo and if you should need any more advice be sure to log onto my 360 or check me out on annelize-sexylee.blogspot.com see ya!
2006-10-02 22:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just muster up the courage to say something. Get the ball rolling. You'll make mistakes but don't be too hard on yourself - I think you'll find that people are forgiving and if they're not would you be interested in them anyway? Also, trust your gut feelings on things - ask a question of some girl you're interested in - ask something you'd really like to know. Start out on a lighter topic like music or food or ask her about her family. The more you do it the better you become so even if it 's uncomfortable now you WILL get better at it.
Good luck!
2006-10-02 22:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dastardly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start by relaxing a little bit and think that girls might feel just as nervous as you. Next you should think of every girl as just a friend at first and start a normal conversation with them.
Say "hi" and smile. When I like a guy I talk a little and get to know him. Like this guy at work I know, he is really cute and at first I was nervous but one day I said hi and we got to talking and we became friends. So now we talk everytime we see each other at work and he also gives me rides home when I need them. I feel that soon he and I will go out with each other. So the best thing for you to do is relax and just start talking to girls you are interested in. Good luck!!!
2006-10-02 22:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Aimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All what you said is natural: ) it happens to every GUY.. I mean every guy, well in the beginning..
First of all get this into your head: ) there are milllions and millions of women & out of those their are 100,000 that are waiting for a guy like you!! What you should do is not date but get involved school activities, travel to another country, get involved in a hobby so you wont think too much, and if your going to think allot use your thinking on things that will make you great!!! Study study study, and loose your pride because thats probably something else thats holding you back. When you date and break up, and date and break up, you not searching but your practicing how to get divorced: ) do you know what I mean?? well I hope you find the right woman, not in a instant but through time.. good bluck..
2006-10-02 22:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, even when you like the girl just talk to her like you would talk to a boy. Just become friends and make her trust you.
Then once you are in a good relationship, ask her out.
2006-10-02 22:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and relax yourself stay calm!
2006-10-03 05:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋