I do everything i can think of, Roses, Little notes when she goes to work taking her out just cuz, treating her right, telling her I love her, calling her even when im busy at work just to let her know, even she says no one has ever treated her this good, but she's scared of getting hurt, how do I help her feel secure?
2006-10-02 21:35:38 · 17 answers · asked by Evan C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She must have got hurt really bad by someone in her life before you. She needs lots of reassurance to help her get over it. Just keep doing what your doing and she'll eventually start to feel safe with you. Do not what so ever hurt this women. Stay faithful even if you think you can get away with it somehow us women find out. Maybe right away or maybe a year later and it will destroy her no matter how long ago it was. PLEASE DON'T HURT HER!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 21:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep doing what you are doing and she will build up a trust that she can feel safe with. she is obviously carrying large issues from previous relationships, there are people and organizations she can talk to that are not classed as shrinks or the stigma that goes along with that. talk to her, ask her if there is anything else you can do to make her feel happier. tell her it doesn't matter how long it takes you will always be there for her.Its hard when there is "baggage" so to speak in a relationship, but if you love her then give her tI'me and support which is what you are doing, you do it long enough then she will start to believe it, I know its hard work but she will be worth it im sure. patients is everything and communication.
2006-10-02 21:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing that really helps is time.
Consistently proving you are a good guy, not just for a week or a month or even a few months - so other than to carry on the way you are there is not much you can do.
Actions speak louder than words, and repeated actions, over and over again tend to sink in :)
2006-10-02 21:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! what a sweetheart you are to her. Always be honest with her and support her in anything if you can. Keep letting her know you won't hurt her and that you are not like other guys that play games. Tell her you are so into her and she makes you happy. Maybe as time goes by and the longer you date she will feel much safer and trust you that you won't hurt her.
Keep doing what you have been doing, keep making her feel special.
2006-10-02 21:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and continue treating her well. She will take a bit of time to realize that you wil not hurt her like others before you, but you have to be patient.
2006-10-02 21:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh buddy,lol its not you its her,sit her down and tell her how much angst its putting you through,tell her you had to put a question out to the world because you care about her and love her,hell show her the question,she probably hasnt thought about how you feel about her insecurity,essentially and this is very important...it will be her insecurity that will ruin your relationship,she is essentially manifesting her worst fear.she needs to know that
2006-10-02 21:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by seth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isnt you its her.
she is fighting her own issues inside and all you can do is be patient and wait.Try taklking to her about this,maybe she has been betrayed by family and friends in th past and it made her this way.
2006-10-02 21:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this neurotic basket case and move on she is going to be a problem in later life anyway best to start afresh with a normal one.
2006-10-02 21:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she may have bad memory of last relation, let's time solve it, if it pass a long and u be with her she'll be secure u don't leave her
2006-10-02 21:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by marjan m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun but there is no way of making her feel right only time and good treatment will help her
2006-10-02 21:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋