I suspect my girl is cheating or talking to someone else. First, she has been going to the movies and she's not telling me until after the fact or it pops up in conversation. However, this evening I unexpectingly wanted to see her and she agreed. However, she told me she had to take a co worker home and then when she got to my house, she had to use the bathroom and then had to meet a friend that she saw earlier. I was a little puzzled and wanted her to stay, but told her to go see her "friend" and call me when you get there. She questioned why I say "friend" like that and I guess she thought I said it in a undermining way... She left and didnt call me when she got to her destination, so I called her. She didnt answer on the first ring and I proceeded to call again. She answered the phone but was rushing me off. She said she was talking to her friend and would call me back- but then I asked to say hi to the friend and then she said she was on the phone with the friend.....
2006-10-02 21:29:25 · 19 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
then 5 minutes later she was on her way to my house wanting to "be" with me......
2006-10-02 21:30:06 · update #1
The whole situation has got me wondering. If she needed to talk to her friend, why didnt she talk to her friend on the phone at my house? Why did she have to leave and why didnt she call me when she got where she was going?
2006-10-02 21:32:43 · update #2
She could very well be hanging out with a friend. Have you tried sitting down and have a conversation, this would be the place to begin, not trusting someone will drive you crazy and put all sorts of thoughts in your mind. Most times when you have a heart to heart with someone you can pretty much see by body language etc. if they are being honest. If she is not then do yourself a favor and find someone else. Life is to short and you can not make someone respect you, if she is not respecting herself and the relationship. However, I would not just jump to conclusions either, she may very well be spending time with a friend who is having a issue and she feels the need for whatever reason not to tell you. perhaps as the request of the friend. And the part of her not answering her phone, this may make you angry but, why should she have to answer on the first ring because it is you, if you are being this clingy no man nor woman really want someone who is clingy like that all of the time. You should seek some counseling of some sort, to deal with this insecure issue you have. That is not healthy, you will not find self worth in another individual. You must know in yourself you are worthy because you are you!Good luck, start with a heart to heart! God Bless
2006-10-02 21:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, I think she's up to something. (Especially note: if she is not normally paranoid, and you said something about her friend [in a nonaccusing tone] and she got defensive, then you know she's feeling guilty. But think about how you said it before you make a judgement about that.) Keep an eye out for the near future for more indications that she is cheating. Maybe you could buy her phone records online too (if that isn't against the law yet) or hire a private investigator if you are really determined to get to the bottom of things. If I were you though, I would probably just dump her after the next sign of cheating. Good luck!
2006-10-03 04:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like a lot of if``s buts and maybes right now with not a lot of proof. The only way you are going to know is if you confront her about this. tell her your concerns and worries and fears , sit down and talk to her do not speak to her in an accusing manner or you will get no where. This may all be perfectly innocent but follow you re gut instinct, it is usually correct. If she was on the phone with her friend the question I would be asking is, she could have still asked her friend to talk to you, all she had to do was put her mobile to the house phone and you could have heard. too many questions that are unanswered, also bear in mind though that she may been devious for a reason, it has happened before where a partner is planning a surprise for the other so they are lying etc to cover it up, so be careful here do not jump the gun.
2006-10-03 04:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
party girl, likes the center of the attention. Not a good sign. So you are last comfort. If your in a relatonship and you already booked that day. you have to keep it, unless emergency comes, like my friend just had an accident, but meeting a friend can be book on the other day, unless he/she is dying? I knew people like that, lie after another, so many energy to waste. You have to talk to her, and tell her about how you feel about his things. If she can't say no to a friend once and for all and leave you in the corner, not really good.
2006-10-03 04:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful not to jump to conclusions. It could be a million other things. Easiest way to find out is to simply explain to her, "Babe, some things have been on my mind and upseting me, will you talk to me about it?" Then come right out (Try not to do it in an accusatory 'ARE YOU CHEATING ON ME!!!!???" kind of way.) Ask questions, get answers. Tell her it bothers you that she's been doing these things and it seems suspicious to you in a way. If she denies it, but you're convinced she's truly cheating, then you need to decide if there's trust in your relationship, and if you want to continue seeing her any further.
2006-10-03 04:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is up to something. You are going to have to find a way to squirm it out of her, it definitely sounds very suspicious, i actually found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me, because he was doing similar things that you mentioned that she was doing. anyways, my problems aren;t important right now, we need to think of a way to catch her in the act or just to simply get it out of her what she has been up to. Keep asking her questions about where she's going, who's she's going to be with, what will they be doing, and also if you could go with her and meet this "friend" of hers. She may feel overwhelmed after a while and run out of excuses to say and may confess, but not everything works out the way we want it, but hopefully this process will get to her. Best of luck mate and I hope everything clears up for you one way or another!! =)
2006-10-03 04:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheating hart cheats it's self. any sign of guilt? how about time she can't explain were she was? Ask her out right if there's some one else,it may be painful but it's better to know than to let it eat at you and cause other problems.
2006-10-03 04:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To look on the positive side, maybe she was helping a girlfriend with a tough situation. However, she is definitely up to something, confront her face to face and see if she folds and tells you. Otherwise, not to be stalkerish, but I would follow her next time and see where she really went.
2006-10-03 04:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on man, be a man and dump this ho/ theres no shame in being cheated on, only in letting it go on. Break up with her and dont even make it about this situation, dont even bring this shiht up, just tell her you dont feel the same way anymore and thats it, do not, DO NOT, make it about this cheating thing.
2006-10-03 04:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man it seems to me like u really need to get rid of her cause by the way u tell it her friend seems like a little more than just friends i'd tell her bye
2006-10-03 04:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋