My husband is an alcoholic - just wondered how other people coped. Sometimes nice to talk to other people in same situation. Been to groups but not my seen - to false.
2006-10-02 20:45:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he has addressed his problem and has beene to detox centres. Stays off and then slowly goes back on but after 3 days drinking is very ill. WE have been through so much together and he is a lovely bloke this bloody illness is so unfair as others do not understand. There is plenty of help of drug addicts and alcohol is one of the hardest things to get off as it is accepted in society. I did think about setting up a charity to fund alcoholics to get help quicker. Last year we had to wait 6 weeks to get him into detox and he was told to keep drinking in the meantime so he didnt fit even though he was violently sick. Any ideas on setting up a charity
2006-10-02 22:58:06 · update #1
I dont live with an alcoholic, but I am in a very close relationship with one. He is such a good person and treats me good even when he is drinking, but it breaks my heart. He kept it a well hidden secret until he became ill and had to go to the hospital for pancreatitis where went into alcohol withdrawl. He was at work and they had to take him to the hospital up north. Because of HIPPA laws, the nurse who was taking care of him could not tell me anything and he was too confused to talk to me, so I hopped in my car and drove 130 miles up to Chicago to find out his adult kids had blotted me off of his person to notify page and put their own names there and they had no clue what was going on. They could not give any medical history or anything. They dont really know him all that well. The kids thought he had a heart attac. How they got a heart attac out of alcohol withdrwl is beyone me. I finally managed to talk to a social worker and his nurse to tell them I believed he was in alcohol withdrawl. They asked me how much he drank and I had to let the cat outa the bag. When I walked into his hospital room, he wrapped his arms around me and we were ok. His kids who had no clue kept trying to get into his bank accounts. They locked me out of the house.
He got over it after a month in a coma and stopped drinking for 3 yrs then one of his adult kids moved in with her alcholic husband and kids and he started drinking again. Apparently they forgot.
He now would go thru withdrawl if he stopped drinking. He is my heart and soul. I cannot take this, but cannot leave him. I am afraid he will die and not know how much he means to me. I know he thinks the world of me, and he has a lot of guilt over his drinking and I dont know what to do about it.
2006-10-02 21:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is an alcoholic. No one understands what it is like to live with them, luckily my husband isnt a violent one, he just falls asleep. He has what i call the circle of life. Doesnt drink for a month, then thinks i will be ok with just one, that one builds up to 16 cans of beer a day, over a couple of weeks then the beer isnt enough he goes on to about 4 litres of wine a day, when that isnt enough he starts on the spirits, total of about 6 months drinking in all. Then he is very ill ends up in hospital for about 2 weeks, they detox him, send him home then it all starts again. At the moment he is on a no drinking stage, been about 2 months, which is good. He keeps on suggesting that he maybe alright with one. So everytime he says that i get out the copy of the hospital report , that says next time he might die and pictures of his tummy bleed and show him them and he soon changes his mind. Not quite sure how long that will work though. I couldnt find any help for me it wasnt just the coping with the drinking it was also having someone to help me through his detoxes, no one warns you of the fits etc that we also have to cope with, it would be handy if there was someone to be there for us as support. People say how do you afford his drinking, he sells our stuff to pay for it, last time he sold our bed as well. People cant understand how i put up with it, but i love him.
2006-10-03 00:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by cath g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is an alcoholic. Its terrible to stay right here. i attempt to tell her issues and shes so caught up in her own international that she doesnt pay attention to me. i will ask her an hour earlier If i can bypass hangout and she or he says definite, then unexpectedly im waiting to bypass and she or he alters her suggestions. She doesnt stress so my buddies could stress me everywhere. she wakes up interior the morning and starts ingesting at 11:00 AM till 2:00 AM while she finally is going to mattress. She no longer often eats so shes continuously cranky. and it hurts my thoughts a lot while my family members tell me that I even have an somewhat enormous risk of becomming an alcoholic too. she chosen to be this way, yet im caught coping with the outcomes. she basically thinks approximately herself. no longer the family members and how a lot shes hurting us. it makes me honestly think of that I hate her, because of the fact shes so vulnerable.
2016-12-26 08:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah my partner is an alcoholic too and a stoner!! Hes abusive to me so im going. Ive tried to help him but im the wrong person, and he wont help himself by getting prof help! If you feel you can support him through this tough time then stay and help him but he has to recognize the problem if not then huni you are fighting a losing battle. Did he have a rough period in his life that needs addressing? Dont let yourself be pulled down by this,self preservation is a MUST!!!!
Good luck x
2006-10-02 22:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to marry my childhood sweetheart because of the aspect of having children with someone who I felt was flawed.
Unfortunately I repeated the cycle. I would suggest that you find good counsel where you can be free with sharing your thoughts. If Al-Anon is not a space you want to explore start your own support group in your church if viable. If not church reach out to good counsel within your family. The key is don't compound the issue by seeking out attention from untrustworthy individuals who may capitalize on your vulnerable state of mind.
2006-10-02 21:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by kirkman782002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, try to be a good example, discourage having alcohol in your home, stop drinking yourself (if you do) which may help him resist indulging. Spend time with him, but, try to steer away from activities which may involve drinks. Many people drink out of frustration and boredom, and then it also becomes addictive. Try to help in those areas if you can.
2006-10-02 21:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah yes my husband is. and its hard to cope at times i feel alone and i want to do so much for him i try really hard too. he does admit his problem and says he wants too slow down but, it might happen for a week or so then we are back to the same ole thing. and i agree it would be nice to talk some one in the same situation.
2006-10-02 21:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes m8 ur not alone i use to live with alchoholic but he never admitted it lived there 5 yrs an got beat an abussed an all the rest .. then plucked up courage an left at xmas best thing i ever did... get out m8 he wont ever change
2006-10-02 22:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by pollypocket150 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife says that there is no way I could answer this question
because I am permanently p....d.
2006-10-02 20:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by psjdeqtg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋