I was with my husband for 20yrs. We married right out of high school. I am in my late 30's and have no idea how to meet nice guys. I don't like the bar scene. Don't have a lot of money for dating sites ect. Don't know much about computers for that matter. Don't want to date at work. Am i out of luck?
2006-10-02 19:55:01 · 14 answers · asked by Stephani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its the hardest thing in the world girl. In bars you meet drunks and men on the prowl. In clubs you meet gamblers. In Church they preach at you. Give em all a miss . Open your eyes, talk to your friends, and smile. There are good men out there, however they are hard to find that is why they are still there. Watch out for the low life.
2006-10-02 20:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. I wouldn't say you are out of luck, but more you are out of sight. I'm a 23 yr-old male and maybe don't have lots of experience as to how to date, but I do for sure have male feelings and could give some advice.
I think there are three things you should consider:
1. Take care of yourself more than usual. Although it may sound a bit vain, you should buy and treat your self good: manicures, hair highlights, face whitening creams, whitening teeth, and even having laser performed on your facial skin will be a good idea. I am saying this because you could be an approachable person (meaning you are not full of shi$%) and look very good. This will for sure attract many guys.
2. Don't get frustrated about having-to-have-a-guy idea. Don't even think this is necessary to have a guy for the moment. Focus on yourself for about six months (do all the stuff in mentioned in one above and even more!). After the time you'll see how many guys start to look at you different. You are going to have to spend some money, so don't be stingy!
3. Although you don't like the bar scene, which is totally fine, you should go out to clubs and maybe even join a non-profit organization or do some volunteering. Bars are just get a one-night-stand (so after taking care of yourself for about 6 months you will get lost of guys there if you want), but if you are looking for guys that are about your age or younger then I would say going to clubs is the best. The volunteer idea is just to show guys that although you are so beautiful and well taken care of you are approachable.
We guys fear to approach a beautiful girl when we notice that all she cares about is her self image (which indicates self-esteem issues) and we are not attracted by that. I would say that we are attracted to those girls who ignore us.
In addition, you may want to become a more youthful, mobile person. For example, you could go backpacking around Europe or Latin America (since it is cheaper), I'm pretty sure you'll find many guys that are doing backpacking too. We usually admire girls that have courage to do something so detachable (but that is if you don't have a set life wherever you live).
Above all I think you should take care of yourself without considering guys, you'll see how we fall your you like bees fall to watch the honey in the flowers.
2006-10-03 03:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by shakiramine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not out of luck. Don't be too hard on yourself. It can be very hard though. Make sure you ask question and proof of everything you want to know about. I have made that mistake. On line is how I met my guy. He has more good qualities than bad. You're young and still have a lot of time to find your guy and you will just don't settle. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-10-03 03:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, well you just answered your own question really.
you have to stop looking for love and let love find you.i know that sounds stupid but it works.the other thing i know is be true to yourself don't lie to men to make yourself more attractive because if you forget what lies you told u r stuffed
and they catch you out. but i have learnt that the right person for you is most times right there with you the whole time.
they are the ones who help you when u r sad,happy no money no roof or just need a friend.
sometimes in life we look to hard and miss.
i hope this helps you and i hope you find your prince charming ,and i hope he sweeps u off your feet .
ciao
2006-10-03 03:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Belinda C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some nice female friends and enjoy your freedom. Maybe you can find this special guy through one of your female friends, this way you can get some insight of his life style. Be careful and good luck.
2006-10-03 02:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go out to local places with friends men arent that hard to meet but dont pick a loser you are only asking for a hurt all over again try the bowling alley. stores. church. as well ?
2006-10-03 02:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already took the 1st step by posting this question here. Just follow up with the responses....
2006-10-03 02:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by hugh_cheung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mm church, singles parties, through friends/family, coffee shops, anywhere really.
If you want to try online, there are plenty of sites ( match.com comes to mind).
At the risk of sounding cliche, love comes when you least expect it.
Good luck in your quest!
2006-10-03 02:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jmyooooh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date me! just kidding
you don't have to rush. nice guys are not easy to get because alot of guys out there are not nice, and you definitly don't want to go out with them.
be patient and wait for the right guy. just wait and Mr. right guy will come to you.
2006-10-03 03:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by www.mrcooldude.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not out of luck, You just met a decent guy me. if you wanna chat or email me...........my addy is silvershadow559@hotmail.com I'm 47yrs. old, single, never been married.
2006-10-03 03:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋