My fiance and I are writing our own vows. My passion for writing sometimes leads me to be long winded when putting my thoughts & feelings down into words.
I wrote up a draft of my vows and thought it was short (for me, anyway) and sweet, but my Mom thought it was still too long. It is about 3 paragraphs...2-3 sentences each.
Is there a guideline on the length our vows should be?
2006-10-02 19:45:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My personal opinion... It's YOUR WEDDING! Do it how you want it to be. I too tend to lead off with my thoughts and what nots... but that's ME. Don't think LENGTH... that'll just add STRESS! Just worry about saying what you need and WANT to say to ur significant other! :) .... If it's a page its a page... it'll still be beautiful! ... Good luck!
*Another thought... Maybe you can re-write a ONE paragraph or whatever length vow and keep the LONG lengthy one for ur hubby... share with him what you wanted in the first place. Let him know you wanted the one U shared with your hubby at the alter (and the crowd) to be just that SHORT n SWEET but just enough for everyone and yourselves to understand the LOVE you have for one another. I know as a female I LOVE love letters and what-nots... and my BF loves them too... so I guess if I had that situation I'd make a shorter vow and give him the LENGTHY one in person... it's more "PERSONAL" that way.. :)
2006-10-02 20:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel too smart for life,let the experts helps you. I dont agree with the idea of writing your own vows. Vows are just that vows - and they have to be the right ones. Let the your pastor or the court do it for you. And it should not be long, it should just be from your heart.
You can summarize those three words into a paragraph of three lines. i believe most of the words you have used there can be summarized with the word love.
2006-10-02 20:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by orige 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a length guideline. You need to be comfortable with what you say. Don't cheat yourself. I would think any where From 2 to 10 minutes to read or speak your vows should be fine.
Congratulations on your up coming wedding/
2006-10-02 19:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 sentences, especially if they're long and flowing, are too long.
Please keep in mind that your vows are NOT supposed to reflect thoughts and feelings and emotions. They are supposed to be short, simple, and direct promises that you are making to your husband. There is no need for flowerly declarations of your emotions...obviously you love each other or you wouldn't be getting married. What is needed are VOWS, not statements of love.
Save the thoughts and feelings for love letters, and keep your vows to "I promise to ...." And be sure they're simple enough to be memorized.
2006-10-03 04:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say what you feel like saying, otherwise you will be sorry down the road that you didn't when you had the chance to say such sweet and memorable things to him. Tell your mother to stay out of it and that she had her chance already. I think it is horrible for a mother to try to prevent her daughter from saying things in her vows.
Just a few hints though: Try not to be repetitious and be imaginative with your words ( don't use the same words over and over) other than that ...it's your wedding so do what you want! Congrats! Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-02 19:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds perfect, not too long and not too short.
It should be as long or as short as you want though. At my brother's wedding, him and his wife were up there for awhile and there was music playing lightly so only they could hear their words. I thought it was so beautiful, it made me want to cry because I don't have love like that...
2006-10-02 19:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its your vows so say what you want to say, no matter how long it is. You are saying them to your future husband and if your religious God.
2006-10-02 19:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a vow is like a contract. Be brief be general try not to break it but dont live by it.
2006-10-02 19:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Moo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1 minute. Tops.
2006-10-02 19:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you want them
2006-10-02 19:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋