lets say your gf/bf went out with some buddies and got drunk and ended up waking up naked with another person. But then told you the next morning and asked for forgiviness, and looked truely sorry. would you forgive that person or would u still break up?
2006-10-02 19:43:42 · 16 answers · asked by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh...and it wasnt my bf, im single. but....the situation is actually where the girl did that...lol
2006-10-02 19:50:16 · update #1
I have zero tolerance for cheating. They should think twice about putting themselves in the situation of going out and drinking with single friends...
2006-10-02 19:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am probably in a minority here, but I would try to work it out if I really cared about the person. Of course forgiveness is not the same as forgetting or just pretending it did not happen. The other person would have to spend time in the doghouse and would have to rebuild trust in ways that they might not want to do. Basically, I let them have the chance to make it up to me (and it means they have to be very consistent over time, not just an "I'm sorry."). And there would be no sex until they have been checked out for STD's especially if this was a stranger before their little tryst.
Now if the person has a pattern of doing this kinda crap, then it is time to kick to the curb.
2006-10-03 02:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by promojames 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned long ago that nothing is as black and white as they seem. Everything depends on circumstances...
Your example contains too many variables to know for sure what would be the best course of action.
Like, was it the first time that ever occured? Has he cheated on you before? Have you guys been together such a long time that you should at least try to save it?
I mean that's what I would ask myself before making a rash decision. Mistakes happen just like someone can be a mistake.
Look into it, good luck!
2006-10-03 02:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jmyooooh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have odd views about this subject. I could probably forgive a one night stand. **** happens. It would take some time for me to trust that person again but I could forgive that. I couldn't forgive an affair. That takes planning, lying, and emotions are involved. A f*ck is a f*ck. It is purely physical. just remeber drunk is no excuse! He/she probably wanted that person sober too.
2006-10-03 02:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Stephani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This coukd be ended in many ways according to the culture. For example, in asian countries this is a crime & for europe & america its not a big deal to sleep with another of the opposite sex. But in this case the person may be really innocent. May be he / she might be forced to drink and seduced. If you know your bf / gf very well and if you truly understand them it won't be a problem for you to choose from good & bad. Good luck. May that never happen to anyone...
2006-10-03 02:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Thilina Guluwita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. They have broken the trust in the relationship, and things can never be the same again, no matter how hard both people try. If one of them messed up that bad, then it wasnt meant to be.
2006-10-03 03:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up...trust me im a guy, even if he says he doesnt remember it the next day...he knew what he was doing last night even when ur drunk or high or both together...he'll do it again...sorry but it's for the best!
2006-10-03 02:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by daniel l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now, I guess that depends on if you've been sleeping with someone else too right? I mean, Cmon , why break up with him/ her if it's only over something I did first! Otherwise there is NO question! DUMP IT!
2006-10-03 02:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by RhinoBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey see!!!!! Its not that easy to forgive
and also Its not so easy to get Forgiveness
But also Its not Impossible
Conclusion is : - That u cant Forgive so easily
I mean
You have to confirm that she is aware and shamed of what
she did and will try not to repeat it in Future
2006-10-05 07:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Rohit_curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Snoogans. Tell your partner never ever go back to that trip again. Unless you were included.
2006-10-03 02:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by LadyRedWild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋