How old is too old to have a baby?

Question

I'm a 35 year old single woman who desperately wants a family but I fear I'm getting too old.

Answer 1

At age 35 the risk factors of some birth defects jump greatly, however with prenatal screening, care and such women are having healthy babys at 45-50..

You may want to cash some eggs now if you have your heart set on a biological child... You would go on a fertility drug for a time and have several eggs harvested and frozen when you are ready one or more of those eggs can be invitro fertilized and implanted so no matter your physical age the egg is still from the 35 yr old you...

Sites with infor on possible problems and rates of increased risk with age//

http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/173_812.asp

http://www.marchofdimes.com/professionals/681_1155.asp

Sites on in vitro

http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/fertility/oocyte_donation/

Note you can use your own stored eggs in the procedure...

Answer 2

You're not too old, heck people are having kids until their 40's now a days. There can be more risks involved, but that's mostly after age 40. My mom is 45 and she has considered having another baby, all of her kids are already over 18. People do it all the time. A lot of women don't start families until their 30's because they are done with school and have done their career and so on. As long as you eat healthy and take your vitimins and you talk to your doctor and so on don't worry about it. It stinks that you're single that can put a damper on it slightly. But... are you thinking about getting a donner? Lol! I know some people may say something about that but heck I was involved with my daughter's dad, for years, and as far as I'm concerned he was nothing but a donner lol. At least there will be no emotional attachment to a specimin. :). Really I wish you all the luck in the world. And if anyone tells you that it is harder to find a man once you already have a kid they're wrong. I met my husband when my daughter was 2. And we've got 2 more kids. Well one on the way and a 2 yr old. He loves my 4 yr old as his own. And heck there are a million blended families out there. You may even consider finding a man who already has kids, so you can have a big family, still have one of your own, and I had a step brother and I have a half brother that are no less my siblings than my real sister and brother. It's all in the attitude. Good luck!

Answer 3

35 is not old at all!!! Women are having babies in their 40's these days. I think you are too old when you reach the age when you couldn't conceive naturally, somewhere around 45.

And never rule out adoption!!! You can become a foster parent and let your agency know your age and/or sex preference and that you are looking for a child with a chance for adoption.

We adopted a beautiful boy this way. We got him at 7 months and we adopted him in March, a few weeks before his 2nd birthday! Now we are going to try for a girl!

(We also have two biological sons.)

Answer 4

Your not too old, it seems more woman are having babies later in life. I recently read of a woman who was in her 50’s maybe 60’s and had a baby it wasn’t that long ago either, this past spring. Health factors for mother and child increase past 40, but there are woman in their 40’s who end up having perfectly healthy babies. I think your 30's is a good time to start having kids.

Answer 5

In my opinion, as long as everything is okay physically, socially speaking the cut off is about 40 or shortly after. I'm a new mom and I know how demanding it can be. I've seen older (60+)people try to take care of my child and they just aren't quite quick enough sometimes. I think the children miss out on being able to play with their parent, tool. Adopting an older child is always an option!

Good luck!

Answer 6

There is never an age where you should stop having children. Menopause is the big deciding factor, though. My mother had me when she was 42. I was fine. In fact, she had 3 kids past 35 and all were healthy happy babies. You have nothing to worry about

Answer 7

35 is definitely not too old to have a baby. Honestly, the only real time it is too old is when you physically cannot have one anymore. There are many benefits to waiting until your in your 30's to start having children. Good luck to you !

Answer 8

If you want a family, talk to your local social services. Find someone who does adoption studies, and look into adopting kids out of the foster care system. There are hundreds of thousands of children who are orphaned and are wards of the state. My husband and I have been trying to concieve for three years, and we decided that instead of creating children artificially, we'll parent some of the children out there who desperately need parents!

Answer 9

medically, 24-29 is the best age to get a child, however, people r getting babies in ther late 40's
the younger, the better for u and for the baby

Answer 10

I had my last babies at age 38, then 40 and my lucky last at 42