I have a byfriend who lied about his age. I found out that he is older than me by 17 yrs but I have come to love him very much. Will the age gap pose a problem for us ? I have not met him and he 's kind of feels bad refuse to talk with me now. Please advise, I'm 47 yrs.
2006-10-02 18:07:09 · 27 answers · asked by Alicia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once you become an adult and you have lived a little age isnt really much of anything other than a number.
However there is a flip side to that.
If you date someone too much older than you.. you stand the chance of them seeing you often in their mind's eye as someone who needs guidance still. Someone who still hasnt seen all of the world. He is 64 years old... yes now days most older men dont even look remotely ethier age, but the sad fact is.. THEY ARE STILL THE AGE THEY ARE>> NO MATTER WHAT THEY LOOK LIKE.
Three more years and he would be 20 years older than you and he would be close to being 70 years old.
I take it that you maybe have met him thru letters or emails... You havent met him in person, but you have fallen in love with what he says. You dont even know him yet and believe you me words dont mean a damn if there isnt any action behind them.. and I dont think you have had any action behind any of his words.
Internet dating can be a blast, but real world dating can be equally a blast. You have action, words, feelings, more than just things on an email and words on a sheet of paper.
If you date someone younger than you, you stand the chance of having to constantly go behind and pick up after them because they havent gained your level of maturity and sometimes, that level of maturity means a helluva lot.
2006-10-02 18:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age gap shouldn't pose a problem if the two of you have
common interests/beliefs/likes/dislikes. That's what your relationship should be based on, not age, which is just a number.
If the two of you are compatible or incompatible, that's what really
matters, how well the two of you get along or don't get along. See
where the relationship goes. Everyone lies at some point, and
anyone who says they have never told a lie, even a little white lie,
is more than likely lying. It's being able to get over which lies are more important than others. Does the age difference mean anything to you? If not, pursue the relationship and find out. If
it leads to nothing, that's fine, but you owe it to yourself to find
out if he's the one for you.
2006-10-02 18:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned about the LYING.. My husband was 17 years older than me. It made no difference. Sometimes it does matter. He had an alcohol problem that over shadowed everything else. He died at a relatively young age....so in the long run,I'll never know.
The character of a person is what is MORE important,to me.
2006-10-02 18:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a man 25yrs my senior for 20 yrs. The last 8 yrs of his life he was ill and I had to take on all the responsibility's of home, working and caring for him. It wasn't easy to watch the man of my dreams being taken from me a little each day, but it was for better or for worse in sickness or in health. If you are capable of that type if commitment then the age difference should not be a problem.
2006-10-02 18:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by still in there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 20, I'd say the age difference will kill the relationship sooner or later.
At your age, it could work, but the fact that he misled you about his age (and now apparently has misgivings) and the fact that you are all interested in the relationship even though you haven't even met him, suggest that there is great danger here.
Proceed with extreme caution.
2006-10-02 18:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is 13 yrs between my wife and I...so it will mean what do you want to put into the relationship? Age should make no difference. What if it were reversed? Again age should make no difference...Love is the important thing not age
2006-10-02 18:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by dickw60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how you feel about him. Age is only a number. If you like it, I love it....It only matters how the two of you feel about one another. I am not trying to make excuses form him, but maybe he lied because he thought that you may not talk to him if you knew the truth.
2006-10-02 18:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Apostolic Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only things you work at work out!!
Get out as much as you put in. But him lying is not a good sign to start with. All you can do is talk and decide if this is what the two of you want.
2006-10-02 18:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 18:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from age.
There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved
You will know the real meaning of love when you fall in love not by age.
2006-10-02 18:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by CK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋