I like a guy and I am unsure of whether he likes me back. We rarely speak, but most of the time he initiates a conversation with me. I'm not very popular and besides the one friend that I have, NO ONE talks to me. So, he's sort of special to me. Sometimes he'll talk to me, then other times he'll ignore me. So, when he does talk to me I treat him badly because of the fact that I don't want to be all nice, then he'll end up hurting my feelings. I don't know, I really like him ... so, what should I do? Ugh...I don't even know what I am asking. Just give me advice :/
2006-10-02 17:54:30 · 11 answers · asked by yourmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ppl don't talk to ppl that are mean and nasty to them. most don't have any reason to approach sad looking ppl unless they feel bad. You need to just enjoy life and get interested in personal hygiene if u haven't already.
Now this guy and you need to develop communication or it probably won't happen. It sounds like you're in high school and if so don't worry college changes everything.
flirt... why? its fun... don't be crazy just play fight if opportunity... call him a name to tease him but nothing he is sensative about... flirt flirt flirt and let him decide hey! i like her!
2006-10-02 17:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. There are a few things that are apparent in your question. 1) This guy is totally sending you mixed messages. He's playing some sort of mind game. You need to decide if you wanna play, too. That brings me to point 2) you seem to have little self esteem pointing out no one talks to you. So you will probably be inclined to continue to deal with this guy. Just because no one talks to you and this jerk off does WHEN HE FEELS LIKE IT does not make him worthy of your time. 3) He hurts you, and doesn't care. If he does that now, imagine what a relationship with him would be like. Just because he initiates the convo, doesn't mean squat. He could just be trying to see how much crap you'll take. My advice is to call him out. Ask him why he only talks to you sometimes, don't be defensive (mean), and see if anything changes. If it doesn't, and he continues to hurt you, forget him. He's made it clear he doesn't care about your feelings. No one deserves that. Someone out there WILL appreciate and cherish you for the wonderful person you are. You say you really like him, there is nothing to like! He has done nothing but hurt you. You aren't in a position to meet someone better if you're hung up with this putz. Wish you luck and love. :)
2006-10-02 18:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by T P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understands how you feel. When my husband and I was bf and gf, we were like that. He will either ignore me or iritate me. It just makes me so mad either way. Then when I become very pissed, he then soften it up and he become very nice to me, but I can't help it to think what he just did things purposely to pissed me off, and then I just yell at him. I don't even want to talk to him. I treated him really bad and I would ignore him for days until I forget about the problems. Whenever I'm pissed, he's happy. Whenever I'm happy, he's pissed. We are barely happy together at the same time. But there's just something about him that just makes me crazy about him. Because I actually miss him when he ignores me. I don't know how we end up marrying for over 13 years now. He's still the same person. Still ignoring and iritating me. I guess I want attention, and he's giving me the wrong attention. When he does give me attention, I think he over due it. I will either get it too much and too little only, and nothing in between. It hurts my feelings sometime and sometimes I just ignores it. The question is can you really take this forever? Can you live like this? Just tell him you want a fresh start and just be honest to him on how you feel. Let him know what you like and what you don't like, so he can avoid doing your dislikes. But at the meantime, you should also treat him nice too. If it doesn't work, then it's not meant to be.
2006-10-02 18:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cava 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be his friend. Be nice to him, and work on liking yourself. If you don't like yourself how can you expect anybody to like you. Live day by day, and don't think too far ahead. Whether he likes you or not life will go on. This is one guy in a world filled with millions of others guys. There is only one of you, so treat yourself right.
2006-10-02 18:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by acme123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both caught up in the mind games. Turn your brain off for awhile. Try and get comfortable with the idea that you like him and he likes you and just leave it at that. The acting and playing it cool and worrying about what he thinks will eventually make the whole thing sour.
2006-10-02 18:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Steve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be nice to him.
But only when he talks to you. Don't try to initiate the conversation, that way you'll see if he really does care and avoid getting hurt, because you would control the situation.
2006-10-02 17:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by ninsixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly slow down you are getting twisted in a knot over this.
You guys are madly in love iwth each other and noth hurting each other in trying not to show it.
Get him alone and tell him he is special to you, see what he says next.
2006-10-02 17:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be you , its a good sign that a man came to you and talk you, you can talk to him by starting 'i m sorry that day cz something came up and i m kinda confuse 'and so on, you goin to be ok with him. good luck.
2006-10-02 17:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't like you, he wouldn't talk to you. Give him a chance, you're being unfair to him and judgemental.
2006-10-02 17:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hit him on the playground, he will know that you like him and then the ball is in his court.
2006-10-02 17:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋