ok yall im straight and i got a bf but i like ONE chick i mean like like alot shes like my best friend and shes bi but i dont kno if she likes me that way and i dont want 2 ask her bout it and i dont want 2 tell her i do like her that way what should i do i need help please!
2006-10-02 17:30:45 · 20 answers · asked by Need help!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't want to tell her or ask her, then don't do anything.
2006-10-02 17:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you may be feeling this way towards her because of the love and intimacy the two of you share. She IS your best friend, and you feel a closeness to her you have with no one else- probably not even your boyfriend. If you've never had feelings for another woman before, do nothing. This is probably a phase and will pass. You could lose both of them with a hasty decision. And FYI, cheating is cheating, no matter the sex, so don't go that route. Be SURE before you act. But do ask yourself what SHE gives you that he doesn't that HER your best friend, and not HIM. If this isn't the first time you've had a same sex crush, or your feelings grow stronger over time, you really need to think about whether or not you may be denying your true feelings towards your own sexuality. Only you can answer that. As far as whether or not you your friend is attracted to you, she probably is. "Birds of a feather...", so you two are probably alike, and she probably finds herself feeling close to you, and therefore attracted. I've never had a girlfriend that didn't think I was hot and vice versa. Just turns out that way. Whatever you decide/ do, wish you luck and love.
2006-10-03 00:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by T P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that if you truly have feelings for her in more than a platonic way, you actually have bisexual tendencies yourself. You should come to terms with this for yourself before making your move. Whether her reaction is positive or not will be a small part of the grand scheme... eventually it's going to be exposed that you had more than "friendly" feelings for this woman. You need to be comfortable with that before you proceed. That said, follow your heart. The heart wants what it wants... and if she's not interested, it's her loss.
Take care, and good luck.
2006-10-03 00:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly its a double edge sword ya know...you want her to want you but you dont want to tell her you want her...LOL....but bottom line you are gonna have that what if thing going on ...so i would just let her know the worst thing is that she rejects you...and then theres the thing about if you reveal your feelings she might look at you the wrong way but if you decide to tell her and not die in suspense at least you got your feelings out there ...and does bf know you are bi???...you might want to mention that to him before you go tell her how you feel ....just looking out
and look if they reject you they didnt care about you anyways ...you can find someone better.... :-)
2006-10-03 00:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you are confused and you need to realize what you really want. you might think you like her and only her so you dont feel like you are bi. but if you are interested in the same sex then you ARE bi or lesbian. just be ready to accept the life style and problems that go with it. would you ask this question to GOD? if you feel like you need to hide things or be secretive about these kind of things than you probably shouldnt be doing them.
2006-10-03 00:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by desirose82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want someone your own sex 'that way'. You're definitely NOT straight. Maybe bi, but you ain't no 'arrow'.
What help do you need? If you don't want to tell her then don't.
But I sense you DO want to tell her, and perhaps want encouragement. Well in that case you will definitely get it from this crowd.
If you want her, go for it. But be prepared for complications.
2006-10-03 00:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a lot of things to tell you to do when it sound like you don't want t do anything about the situation. leave things the way they are and hopefully she will get a hint that you like her or just tell her. she is your good friend so it shouldn't be hard. text her that's the easiest way.
2006-10-03 00:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her.
At first joke around about it.
Then see if she really feels the same way.
But remember, you have a boyfriend.
Talk to him about it, too.
So how he would feel if he found you in bed with another girl.
And make sure you tell him not to joke around, that its a serious question.
2006-10-03 00:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well before you can ask her out, I think you should ask if your bf would be okay first. Because if he found out that you are cheating with another person, I think he will be very upset and heartbroken. Imagine if your bf wasn't honest to you and he did it to you.
2006-10-03 00:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way to handle it would be to just talk to her about it, be completely honest she sounds like she is a pretty open minded person.
2006-10-03 00:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by celticldy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want her to know then keep it to your self!!!!
If you want to cause trouble tell the truth and ruin your life.
I have already did something simular with some one I knew and ruined our friendship and families for life.
2006-10-03 00:35:27 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋