Me and my baby's father got into an arguement.He called me later that night and we talked calmly and he apologized for speaking to me the way he did.that was on monday and he hasnt called back or come by to even check on the baby which he normally does.(2 months old).And yes I know he's o.k. We got off the phone ok but I dont understand.He fights me on seeing her so much ,he talks about his right to her so much but ive left the door open comepletely an dhe abuses it seems to me calls and comes over when he feels.I didnt want o take his rights away but WTF? and he's not paid the agreed amount of chid support since she's been born and he now owes me 1200.00.What should I do. besides file for child support.
2006-10-02 17:18:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just let him be. I would definitely file for support. He is a man that is stringing you along. He is not to worried about helping you with your child so don't sweat it. You are like a lot of mothers having to do it on your own. Just accept what kind of person he is and move on. If he is not helping you take care of your daughter though he wouldn't see her no way. She doesn't know he is even alive so don't worry about your daughter getting to bond with him. If he cant help out he shouldn't have the privileges of a father.
2006-10-02 20:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tyler&Noah's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie see the answer I left to your other question, and please get out of this. He's using your "controlling behaviour" (which is nonexistent) as an excuse. Then when you do leave the door open, he fails to use it. Until you close it again, and around and around it goes.
He seems very immature, and I think that filing for child support, and designating visitation rights would help him shape up. If he does want to be a responsible dad, that will be his time to begin doing so. If he wants to be a kid, sorry to say but he'll be the same ****** he is now.
I really hope everything works out for you beautifully. I can't imagine going through this myself. I've seen the pain it causes in people...
2006-10-02 17:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like hes selfish but I dont know his situation. You need to talk to him and tell him to be a part of your childs life. If ya'll argue be mad at each other but tell him a real man wouldnt take it out on the baby by not coming to see his child.
How does he owe you 1200 for a 2 month old baby. You got lucky with child support
2006-10-02 17:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A whole week? Geez. My godson's dad shows up every few years, stays a couple weeks, and then disappears for another few years. He was nowhere to be found when my godson had open heart surgury at 14 months. (Paternal grandma was there. Dad had no excuse not to know)
I'd file for child support if I were you. And get married before you have another baby!
2006-10-03 00:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is the same kind of situation my brother is in except his girl gets pissed and refuses to let him see his son it sucks but he dont make much of an effort either so he pays support court ordered but he chooses not to see this kid so my suggestion is to let the court in on it and leave the door open for him but make sure that he knows there is no such thing as a part time father in the end honey the baby gets hurt so you need to be strong and be there for her when she gets older she might not even want him in her life unless he changes his ways soon some cases judges relinquish their right to that child so he needs to step up and help you i know you didnt create her on your own so why should you be the only parent in her life it isnt fair to you or that baby
2006-10-02 17:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by leslie j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing much else that you can do. The father of my 2 daughters was very abusive to me but was good to the girls. I left him and he has seen them 3x in the last 4 years. I met a man who loves and adores them, we are engaged and have a child of our own. I kept trying to get the girls' father to see them, but he had no interest. Eventually I said good riddance. If he doesn't want to be there, then I don't want my daughters to know him. That would break their hearts. The only thing I need him for now is when my fiance and I get married he plans to adopt the girls. I will of course tell them when they get older, but right now,(they are 4 and 3) I don't want him near them.
2006-10-02 17:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He should being paying child support. That isn't for you, it is for your child. If you are struggling, then she will suffer. It doesn't matter if he wants to see the baby or not, he still has to pay! Some dad's just threaten about seeing their baby as a control issue, not because they really care. If he does care, he will straighten his @$$ up and Fly right!!!!!
2006-10-02 17:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should file for sole custody of your child as well as have him sign over all his parental rights, and get court ordered child support.
2006-10-02 20:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no child support then he doesnt see ur child tell him doesnt he care if his child doesnt eat he should wanna make sure his child has everyjin
2006-10-02 21:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would whoop his ***!!!
2006-10-02 17:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋