I am a straight male and I live with my brother and his partner. It seems to me that they always quibble over the most mundane, unimportant trifles...and it is really getting on my nerves...I don't see many other couples, so I was wondering does everyone argue over stupid s*** all the time? Is this what I have to look forward to when I establish a relationship?
2006-10-02 17:18:23 · 13 answers · asked by Richard H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
gay guys are usually very anal, in more than one way.
2006-10-02 17:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by roberto lopez 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Richard: It is possible to have a relationship where arguments and fights happen rarely or never. But that depends you and the basis by which you chose your partner. What is important to you? I, too, an a "straight" male and I, too, hate arguing. In my case, it was my parents. My parents argued constantly and about everything. So I can't stand to hear couples argue. My wife and I met on the internet. Before we ever met in person, we discussed many subjects and that included how much I hated arguing. She agreed about that and many other things. I had finally met my love, my best friend, my partner and my companion. We have now been married for over 3 years and have yet to have an argument. We have not even come close. We discuss each issue and respect each other's opinion. I was 49 when we met. It was my first and hopefully only marriage.
So there is hope.
2006-10-03 00:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Spiritual but not religious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh yes..the battle of wills! Or ahem willies in this case..LOL JK
All kidding aside though. It happens to all of us. Gay or straight. And even between friends.
We are all different and unique individuals. One can not, and should not automatically expect to always get along all the time in any relationship. The only reason their arguing is more prevalent to you is because you all see each other very often. It is inevitable that you be witness to their 'domestic quarrels'. Their arguing may seem 'pointless' to you, because you are not emotionally invested in their relationship.
In order to avoid such hurdles in the future you must learn to compromise. One must always be mindful of the others feelings, and having the 'last word' may not always be in the best of interest for the long run.
2006-10-03 00:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from. My best friends are a gay couple and those two argue constantly! It can definitely make having a relationship look pretty undesireable but think back to your past relationships.... did you bicker like that? Probably not. Heterosexual couples seem to handle things differently because they have alot of gender differences in communication styles, etc. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
2006-10-03 00:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by mizindependent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with your situation. I, however, have been married for fourteen years and have three kids. I feel qualified to offer this advice......
....Bend over and take it like a man. You know why you moved in with two gay men. Yes, a majority of people argue over stupid s*** all the time. No, we do not do it as a ritual rite of affection for the 'new bird on the block'. You know. "Birds of a feather"?
Good luck. I hope your wildest dreams come true. Whatever blows your skirt up, anyway.
2006-10-03 00:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many arguments in relatioships are over stupid stuff. Good thing is, they don't happen often. And if they do, you're in a bad relationship. Yes, there will be bad times, but there will be plenty more good times.
2006-10-03 00:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Raven Sky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, all relationships share differences of opinion. Quibbles occur in all relationships, hetero or homo.
2006-10-03 00:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gay or straight, the couple ship
is the same.
i've been in 3 relationships in my life, and
its always the same. at one point into it, it descends into bickering and arguments, and bitter looks.
it takes a great deal of effort to build a relationship.
hence, the great proliferation of the bang buddy trend.
all the sex, none of the consequences or responsibilites.
i wished i had a woman who'd be my bang buddy.
i hate myself. sigh....
2006-10-03 00:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, most couples in love has a few moments but they get along fine. THATS what i see in my sisters marriages.
2006-10-03 00:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes & no
couples dealt with issue differently
2006-10-03 00:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT WHAT YOU CALLED A REALTIONSHIP, THAT WHAT
COUPLE DO, IT NORMAL BEHAVIOR BUT SINCE YOU
FEEL THAT IT A PROBLEM THEN TALK TO THIM ABOUT
IT, BUT WHEN YOU GET A REALTIONSHIP, YOU WILL KNOW
WHAT IT LIKE.
2006-10-03 00:23:00 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋