answer asap please help i dont know what to do?

Question

Mobile phone ex girlfriend called!?
My 19 y/o boyfriend ( I am 24 ) received a call from a girl today on our way back from me picking him up from college;. He didn’t pick up the phone but at first lied to me about who it was he said it was a friend of his from class then about 10 mins later told me he lied and that it was an ex of his. Later on that day he was showing me a previous missed call from a friend of his and I saw the name of the caller before. It was his ex and he told me the truth and all but the name read “ Mariam YUM YUM “ I don’t know what to do. Should I bring it up to him??? Do I even have a right to do so? Sometimes when I tell him stuff he always says Im over reacting should I just say to myself that its just a name on a mobile phone; that’s it????? And if I should confront him how should I do it???/

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32 minutes ago
hey I have decided to send him a message on his mobile that reads the following let me know...what u think i wont send it for another hour or so when i read responses
My message would read:
Adam, Yesterday when You were showing me that your friend had given you a missed call. Proof that you weren’t lying again about Mariam calling you I happen to notice that you listed Mariam YUM YUM??? That’s an odd last name for an ex girlfriend, so I assumed it was a nick name kind of how you list mine as Suzy.Darlin.
Well I just wanted to let you know this without it being an argument. Unless you learn to let go of your past relationships we cant move forward with ours. Also all those pictures of those girls you slept with in your phone need to go too.
When you decide to delete all this from your phone and life, give me a call.
Peace

Answer 1

In a relationship lying is a deal breaker. Why as women we feel guilty for asking questions, or standing up for this I don't know. You have the right to not be lied to and to know what is going on without feeling like a nosy *****. Should you go through all his stuff? No. But if the situation was reversed how would he feel. Don't go through life feeling guilty about trying to get the things you need, it only makes for a resentful, untrusting relationship and who wants that?

Answer 2

I think it's a good idea. There's nothing wrong with the age difference, but how mature is he? I mean, I think you should ask yourself if he's ready for a serious relationship. Because if he refuses to delete the old girlfriend's #s from the phone, that might should tell you something. Either way there has to be honesty in a relationship, it sounds like you're getting a good start at laying that foundation. Good luck.

Answer 3

the message sounds ok but don't give him an ultimatum why not just call him or talk to him face to face? try that and see how it goes. the name does mean something maybe at the time of their relationship but hopefully not now. and the fact that he didn't answer the phone in front of you suggest he may be talking to her when you're not around. a woman ain't gonna call if her calls aren't accepted. so tell him if it's ok to keep close to his ex then maybe you need some new friends too.

Answer 4

This is a classic case of Liar Liar. Who knows what else this guy is hiding from you. If he has pics of girls he has slept with in his phone, this means he isn't mature enough to be committed and let go of the past. How would he feel if you had ex's calling you and or naked pics of men you had slept with? This person will cause you future troubles, get out while you still can with you heart in one piece.

Answer 5

soooo, what is your question?

Either you trust the guy or you don't. You don't have to threaten him, just tell him the truth. If you don't feel comfortable with his continuing relationship with his ex's then move on. There are plenty of men in this world who know how to treat a woman right and wasting your time on someone who does not will only make you angry at all men and will possibly hurt someone else who is honestly trying to have a good relationship.

Good Luck

Answer 6

It really sounds like this is a talk you need to have in person. Doing it in text message just doesn't make it as "real." I also have to wonder just how ex this Miriam really is if she still calls him frequently. It seems like if their relationship is over there wouldn't be too much they need to talk about. Is he answering her calls and talking to her when you aren't with him? I think you need to have a face to face talk about letting go of past relationships, but first ask yourself if he isn't willing to do that are you willing to let go of this relationship?

Answer 7

i believe he is young and immature and is behaving as such. It would be best to part sepperate ways he is in college and wants to do the college thing. I think that what u wnat to send him is perfect but dont be surprised if he dont call you back. Let him do his thing and you move on to someone that has grwon up and is ready for a grown up relationship and someoen that isnt holding to the past. best of luck

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You should definitely send him that message. It let's him know that if he's going to be with you all of the BS has to stop. But be completely honest with yourself in knowing that he's 19 and away at school.....and be prepared to let him go.

Answer 10

you're being funny, right? LOL. you're 24 and he's 19 and you're putting up with that sh.t? oh hell no, too many fishes in the sea for that sort of game. either he get with the program or good riddance! my bf is 24 y/o and i'm in my 30's, if he did something like that..i would say...good luck and good riddance buddy, i don't need your ***!