I've liked this girl for a while, we are friends.Im fairly attractive, but I have such low self esteem, i was overweight, and short about 2 years ago. I joined the soccer team, lost weight and grew, and I have women flirting with me, but I still think of myself as a chubby nerd. I went out with her last year once or twice, but nothing ever happened. I will also get spirts where I dont like her. Since this year started, I have been getting hints, such as playful punches, and when me and some other guys are around her she always seems to try to talk to me. I dont know if there are negative signs to, i may be forgeting them subconciencely. She is extremely beautiful and the other guys are very pushy for her attention, even though I seem to be more laid back. She is very shy, and it is hard to pick up on her true feelings, I dont know. I dont know if I'm just psyching myself out or what. I think im crazy, this whole situation is killing me
2006-10-02 17:12:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-03 23:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a guy. playful punches = shes attracted to you. youve been friends a while so you cant just wade in... need to test the waters first. you need to also calm down and get some perspective; if the girl isnt into you its not the end of the world, plenty of pretty women out there. drop a suggestion that you guys go do something different, like ice-skating or go-karting. It'd be just the two of you cause itll be fun with her cause you guys share the same sense of humour, whereas the others wouldnt enjoy it so much. on the date/meet, hold her hand a few seconds as you're skating or whatever, and give it a squeeze. If she squeezes back or lets you hold it, youre in. You need to be confident and make a move at some point or she'll see you as her asexual friend. It's okay to be a man and make a move - if she's not interested, she'll tell you. if she isn't interested, then back off and date other women. she may become jealous and see you as a potential partner then. but i wouldnt consider dating her at that point. But at the moment, just assume she likes you. Why? Because (a) you'll act more confident and feel better about yourself, and , (b) you don't actually know (seems like shes interested from your story), so go make a move and find out.
2006-10-02 17:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by lucas m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's the thing, man. I understand that the only thing that changed with you is on the outside, inside you still feel unsure of yourself, afraid of rejection, etc. Well, welcome to the teen years.
Here's what you need to focus on; apparantly you've grown into an attractive young man--by your accounts, you have girls fliriting with you--but since this is the girl you're really interested in, you're nervous, unsure of yourself...even her positive signals make you worry.
So, just go ahead and ask her out. At this point, you need to say (without being egotistical about it) that if she says no, it's not the end of the world, girls find you attractive, you can find someone who's more interested. Just let go of these insecurities and don't bulid this up as the be-all, end-all relationship of your life. The fact is, nobody you meet now will be your life-long love, no matter how strongly you feel. So just relax and enjoy dating.
2006-10-02 17:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, your last outing with her was last year?! Pick up your courage and date her out again, bro. Then let nature take its course.
You don't have to go into a steady relationship right from the start. Just spend more time with her and enjoy each other's companion. You will know her heart in time to come.
2006-10-02 17:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by dickson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man i fell the same way, exept for the girl im falling in love with is my roommate. I was thinking about asking the same question on here as well. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-02 17:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by cobra69_68467 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SENd her a single rose and tell her the prince would like to ask you out 0n a date?
2006-10-02 17:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be interested in you. Maybe you should ask her how she feels about you.
2006-10-02 17:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by sandysweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out. what have you got to lose? The worst that could happen is she says no.
2006-10-02 17:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by mizindependent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a rose for valintines day
2006-10-02 17:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋