I like this girl who is in most of my classes. She's not the hottest girl, but she has this great personality that when I talk with her I feel understood. Anyways I told her how I felt and she just blushed. later on one of her friends came up to me and told me to stay away from her and that whatever I'm trying to pull is not going to work. I found out that she likes me herself too, only she's scared I might dump her for some hott girl and end up hurting her. She also thinks that I'm trying to pull a prank/joke on her. Only I do like her and since then she has been avoiding me. Not only that, but my friends think I'm trying to play a joke on her too and they actually find it funny. Like I said she's not the hottest girl and I have been with way better looking girls then her, but that was for looks and I have changed since then. What I'm asking is how can I get her to trust me?
Thanks for everything people and peace out!
2006-10-02 17:00:15 · 16 answers · asked by what_it_do? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um...well show her that you've changed. SHOW her that she can trust u. Well I've been in a simaliar situation and through experience (since im a girl) I know that over time she will trust you. There was this guy that liked me and I liked him, he admit it, but i wouldnt. He got mad blah blah blah... I thought that i couldnt trust him for dumping me or using me. But now, I trust him because I know that if he could tell me that he liked me, then i can tell him other stuff too. Get it? Wait...I dont think that this answered your question...
2006-10-03 18:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by DookieCookie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This girl might have some problems with self-esteem...and why would her friend get involved in that? maybe jealous and lying? Anyways, don't let those friends get in a way.
Other thing might be that the girl got hurt in a relationship before, had a prank pulled on her, whatever...So she's very suspicious. The best you can do is take things slow, show her some genuine interest. Did you get her number already? if not do. Call her and have a little conversation about HER, and her interests. And when you see her, make sure eye contact is there (at least from your side). GD:)
2006-10-02 17:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sonike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her friend. Sincerely. Ask her why she thinks you are trying to pull something. Tell her that you really do like her friend, and you want to know how you might be able to hook up with her without her thinking it is a joke. Maybe her friend will believe you and help you. If not, wait a few days, and talk to her directly. Tell her you wanna go out sometimes, and even though other people think it is some kind of joke or prank, that doesn't matter to you cause they (and she) will see that it is the truth soon enough.
2006-10-02 17:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there were more guys like you this world might be a better place. Anyways, you should try to find some way to show her that you don't care what other people think. Give her flowers or some other sweet gesture. She sounds like she's really insecure, so whatever you do, I would make sure it's something relatively subtle so that she doesn't feel put on the spot.
2006-10-02 17:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by cfschweppes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls like this one (the "nice" girls) are used to getting hurt and having people play these kinds of cruel pranks on them. This contributes to low self esteem. Show her that you're different. Tell her how you feel, that you like her personality and feel understood and that you like who she is. If you show that you aren't a loser like a lot of guys she'll be more receptive. Also you might try doing something sweet for her to show what words don't always convey. (make her a card, write her a song, a flower, whatever you get the point) Good luck!
2006-10-02 17:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by mizindependent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i think it's good that you are not focused entirely around looks anymore... But if you really like this girl them you will go up to her and tell her yourself! You have to make her believe that you are not just trying to play her. The longer you wait the more her friends are filling her head with how bad of a guy you are for trying to pull this prank so in my opinion you had better...TELL HER!!!!
2006-10-02 17:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by wannabenun1234 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stick with it. Looks don't last forever. Girls or Boys that are hot when they are young, often don't look that way when they're older. Personality lasts forever. This might be the love of your life. Be nice, don't force anything and she'll eventually come around. Remember, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-02 17:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by irish_yankee51 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK this is what you do...
talk to her more
get her number
get to knoww her and bout her life
hang out with her
let her kno she can trust you
maybe when u kno u have to hang out with Ur Friends and she wants to hang with you that same day dump Ur Friends for her so she knows your devoted to her...
then see how it goes after that if she still doesn't trust that u are for real then you need to rly step up boy and let her know that u want her and you don't want anyone else in your life right now but her
2006-10-02 17:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by cutie7191 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her friend told you to stay away from her so that she could have you instead. Ignore her. Ignore your friends who make fun of her. Just talk to the girl more, and ask her out sometime. Anyone who doubts you or your relationship with her can go hump a tree.
2006-10-02 17:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be honest and act with integrity with her. That said, you might not want to tell her that you describe her as "not the hottest"--every girl likes to feel pretty.
2006-10-02 17:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by bortiepie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋