I have strange feelings about my husband....is this something to worry about??

Question

We have a 6 year old daughter. She's very good at saying "I hope you die" and then laughing impishly if she is reprimanded. I don't know where she got it except shes been spending time at our neighbors who have 2 unruly and disrespectful kids. She doesn't say it to me but she has said it to my husband before he leaves for work, because she hasn't had her way about something. The 1st time she said it we were shocked. The 2nd time she said it, about 3 weeks ago, he got despondent and hasn't come out of it yet. My sunny, handsome and smart, always slightly amused young husband has suddenly turned into someone I no longer know. The beautiful light in his eyes that I fell in love with is gone. His eyes are lifeless now and he has lost interest in EVERYTHING in the course of 3 weeks. When he comes home he smiles and kisses me and walks off to do his own thing, but even his smile is dull and lifeless now. I don't know what to do to get my husband back? Can anyone give me some advice? THANKS

Answer 1

First, ask you husband what is wrong. Second, tell your daughter that she shouldn't say things like that and if she does, you need to discipline her. She may say that to the wrong person one day and get treated in a manner which you would rather not have her treated.

But talk with your husband. He's a big boy, he should be able to express what's going on in his head and heart.

Answer 2

Time to give that kid a little lesson is respect. The husband should have faced off with her and hammered her about the way she talked to him. Might not be a bad idea to let the other kids know that kind of attitude is not welcome in your family. The hubby needs come tender loving care mixed with some backbone to face down the little brat. Time to start playing take away. If you do not get her back on the right path now the future will be very bleak. The family should start each day out with goodmorning kisses and positive things. The role of the parents is not to be questioned by anyone 6 years old. Get control now....

Answer 3

First, get used to your daughter saying shocking things about hating you, hating the world, hating everyone, and especially wishing people were dead. I've lived with it for almost 15 years and the best you can do is correct her when she does it. Don't act shocked, or over-react - as she'll be doing it to get attention. Love her.

Second, get your husband help. I agree with the answer that says he may very well have slipped into a clinical depression. These are very dangerous. Your daughter's words may have triggered it - or they may have been coincidental to the onset. My father has struggled with this for years - and it is only through therapy and medication that he has resisted the temptation to give up completely.

Answer 4

Your daughter needs to be seriously reprimanded. That's not funny. If she's treating you like this and you allow it, imagine how she will treat people away from the home. And imagine what those people will think of you as parents.

Perhaps your husband is trying to send her a message. If so, I hope she gets it.

Answer 5

First of all, talk to your daughter and tell her that what she is saying is serious and isn't nice at all.
He probably feels like he doesn't know what else to do, so of course you both need to talk to your daughter. I believe it is something all children are good at saying, especially in their tween and teen years. You're daughter is starting early. Watch out, you have a little rebel on your hands.

Answer 6

slap your child. haha just kidding! but you do need to have a serious talk with your daughter. although she is young, maybe you need to have the death converstaion, and how she should want anyone to die. let her know that if she continues to say it, then she will be punished. convonce your husband that she doesnt mean it and that she is a child. also tell him that you have explained to your daughter what dying really is, and how she will be repremanded if she says it again. good luck with this!

Answer 7

your husband has the symptoms of clinical depression.

don't laugh it off. get him to a psychiatrist ( who can help with meds) or a psychologist who can help with therapy and may be in practice with a psychiatrist, ASAP.

this is important. don't let it drag on.

Answer 8

Talk to your daughter about why she is saying that. And be prepared to truly listen to her. I would worry more about what is happening to my daughter than my husband.