who should make the first move to patch things up? i tried patching things up like making conversation but she just ignores me. my mom is saying i should be the first one to patch things up cause im the youngest and she is the oldest. now i feel that why should i talk to someone who dosent talk to me. you know where im getting at.
2006-10-02 16:53:41 · 7 answers · asked by pillowpinogirl023 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to patch things up until you are blue in the face and can't talk anymore. I had a spat with my brother and now it's been 13 years since we really talked. I miss him very much. Time goes by quickly.
2006-10-02 16:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last time I spoke to my sister was December 30th, 2000 as we were leaving the cemetary from our dad's funeral. I have tried on several occasions to talk to her and it never does any good, my mom has tried to talk with her about it and no good. In short whatever the issue is that you and your sister got into it over she has to deal with and come to terms with it on her own and until she does there is nothing you can do except let her know that you are sorry if she feels you are wrong and that you love her. I am also the youngest and for most of my life let my sisters rule so we always got along because they knew I wouldn't stand up to them but when I wouldn't let her have her way and have my dad put on a ventilator she saw it as I killed him when all I was doing was following his wishes and as his power of attorney I had to do what he wanted not what I wanted or her. I know someday she will see that but I have to wait until she does just as you will with your sister. In the meantime don't forget her b-day and things like that still send a card so that she knows no matter what you care.
2006-10-02 17:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly their has to be a reason why you and your sister are not speaking and what does it matter if you or she did something yous are sisters if i was you i would extend the olive branch first just tell her how you feel tell her that despite whatever your differences may have been you love her and want her to be a part of your life because you really admire her as a person and you want to be able to be show her everyday as long as you and her are happy you can at least try speak from the heart and trust me you will know what to say instead of just looking the other way good luck ........ps im just one out of 4 girls so i know where exactly it is you are coming from me and my sisters used to have disagreements all the time and fights too over silly little things and now you should see us all 4 of us are closer then anything in this world and after my mom died it brought us even closer because thats they way she would have wanted it so at least try whether she snubs you or accepts your apology at least she knows in HER heart of hearts you tried ok
2006-10-02 17:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Maria M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter and let her know exactly how you feel. Don't accuse her of anything. That will just put her on the defensive. Use a lot of "I" statements: "I feel sad when you ignore me because I feel like you don't care about me." etc. etc.
Last but not least, remind her of the old saying, "blood is thicker than water." that you guys are in this for the long haul and when other people might turn their back on her, that you will always be there for her as her little sis. Good luck!
2006-10-02 16:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by berkeleygirl19 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, since she's the older one, she should be the one to start to patch things up. But, thats besides the point - try talking to her or writing her a letter and getting things straightened out. If she still ignores you and won't talk to you then at least you tried and you know it's not your fault.
2006-10-02 16:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i see where your coming ....me coming from a small family , i can truley apreciate the meaning of a strong family bond like the saying goes blood is thicker than water. You need your family no matter what the the circumstances my be she my be feeling the same way about you but if no one speaks up the problem will never get solved
and trust me when you lose sight of the things that matter most life is like hell
good luck with your sister please update me
2006-10-02 16:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by t_roseman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have truly put the effort into making up with your sister...that's all you can do.Let it rest.You won't get anything out of a"hard head"sister.Tell your mom you tried.The next move is up to her.Let it rest for now.
2006-10-02 17:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋