i am struggling with social anxiety. tomorrow morning i'm going to start talking to my advisor (i'm a psych major) for counseling. my anxiety isn't so bad that i start sweating and getting rapid heartbeats in public, but like in the caf, i have a hard time speaking and joining conversations. i don't have friends here, as they all transferred. but anyways, is there anyone who has struggled with this but is not better with it? like i know there's hope, but i just wanted to hear other people's experiences. thanks!
2006-10-02 16:48:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
you're getting help and looking for it so you're half way there
you're acknowledging that you need help and that's great!
get the help you won't regret it
there is too much of a stigma with getting counsellling
there shouldn't be
getting help doesn't make you crazy
drop your guard
don't let pride get in the way
make sure you talk to your counsellor
that's what you're there for
make the most of that time
let me know how you get on
Dee xxoo
2006-10-02 17:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dee Dee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have a great fear of public speaking and generally the center of attention for ANY reason. i used to take drama in jr. high and high school to try and get over that .. but it never worked.
since you are a psych major .. you know that working through it and talking to your therapist (counselor) is the best way to even "start" to overcome ...
i am now taking meds .. i know when i'm going to have a problem .. or when i foresee a potential issue. if i know i have a speech to give ... or if i have address a group of people that number more than 10 ... i will take my meds so it will help me remain calm and focused.
it's good that you can recognize that you struggle with this particular scenario ... and hopefully you can get it resolved before you graduate .. get your degree .. and have to "talk in front of other people" as a psychiatrist. :)
good luck to you ....
2006-10-03 00:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by :|: raven :|: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, im not a bad guy or anything and didnt have the same issues in high school, but I struggled with friends in undergrad as well. I didnt care though, I liked being alone. Helped give me time to do as I chose, and my grades went up. Im now in grad school, still alone but not having problems with talking to people. Grad school people dont make friends, they just go and do there thing and leave. I still go to parties etc and chat with people, but grades are everything now. But dont worry, just relax. Friends will come eventually, and if not who cares- just do your best in school.
2006-10-02 23:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by allukcatsbaby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. all my friends went to school while i dont have to because i'm already able to open my own business here. the only person i have pretty much is my bf and some friends but when he's not with me and wants time away he is with them..which leaves me with no one. just try to be more confident about yourself and don't be nervous to step into conversations. im trying to get over this situation as well :)
im worried about not having my own friends because since my bf and i share our friends he always gets to be with them when he doesnt want to be with me. it's hard to make new friends but just be yourself...and if they don't accept you that way then they aren't a good friend from the beginning
2006-10-02 23:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will get better. I have been shy all of my life and had huge social issues. I'm at a school where I have no friends, but making small talk helps. You just need to feel comfortable with yourself.
2006-10-02 23:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by september 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find someone at school that is alone and be friends to them. You will start to feel better after just one encounter. Then try to help another person that is all alone. If they reject you just try to help someone else.
2006-10-02 23:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people that major in psychology have problems. What are you so afraid of? And, think about this: what is the worst that could happen?
2006-10-03 00:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hope remains as long as life itself - and perhaps even later, who knows ?
2006-10-02 23:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regression therapy will work for you. Contact me if you are in Singapore.
2006-10-03 00:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by 11fingers 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have the same problem! when you find something that helps please let me know.
2006-10-02 23:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dominica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋