I decided after my divorce to dedicate my life to raising my child -child is now grown & its time for me! Problem: I am terrified! I am an attractive 36 yr old female. (this sounds egotisticle, but I am on the higher end of attractive) I went out twice last month - not dates - a family wedding (big bash) & with a friend to a club to watch her husband play in his band. Both were nightmares. At the wedding, 4 MARRIED men hit on me. I blundered through it, but inside I was seething. At the next outing, a very nice guy was interested in me - turns out that he was married & liked "threesomes." I also got stuck having to stay w/my friend at their friend's house, & he wanted to show me his "SEALY POSTUREPEDIC" (Don't get me wrong, I LOVE sex and can't wait to get back "on the saddle" -I feel sorry for the lucky guy!)8) I just think a man should not be married and at least know my middle name before even discussing sex. Do all men act this way? Is this what I should expect? Help!
2006-10-02 16:32:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're as good looking as you say, then you have to expect a certain level of that sort of foolishness. Basically, for the most part, guys are idiots.
However, if this is as rampant as you say, maybe you're doing something to send the wrong signal. You're good-looking, available, and now you've got this added dimension/attitude of "I'm going for mine". That would be easy to read, and misread by some louses out there.
Are you being overly flirtatious? Maybe you need to ramp it down a bit, because guys like the ones you are currently attracting just need an opportunity, and they'll look high and low until they find one. Also, you started your question by stating you were celibate for 6 years....if sex is on your mind, again, you're probably signaling that somehow.
As far as how to attract the right guy.....let me throw out a suggestion, if it doesn't creep you out; go young. Look for guys in their mid to late 20's that haven't been married yet, but are good solid citizens with a good career plan. Those guys are looking to be a bit more serious, and also a bit more selective, and even possibly you will find more gentlemen that way, rather than horn-dogs. I find as a general rule, in May-December romances, the guys in them are usually a bit deeper than your average bear.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 16:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been celebate, as well, for 2 years this time (4 years in the past) and the way I intend to get back into dating is at church. The first time I got back into it was online. Even though it was successful, as far as finding some new "freinds", it never panned out to very much in the way of real relationships.
Everyone knows the club and bar scene is a bad idea if you really intend to have a meaningful relationship, especially if you happen to be attractive. So think about the kinds of things you like to do and see what your area offers in the way of clubs or events in which you may attend. Join a singles bowling league or a bridge club. Ask married women where they found they're husbands.
No matter what you choose to do, DO NOT seek a man on the internet. Even though most people on the net are just folks, it is a fairly dangerous thing to do. Church is the best bet.
2006-10-02 16:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may take some time, but there are good and decent guys out there. You may change where you are looking. Do you go to church? Any church function would be a good place to start. Also, see if your friends know of any nice guys that might be interested in starting a relationship- friends first of course! I admire that you put your child ahead of your own interests. That takes a lot of character and strength on your part. Something that seems to be lacking in today's society, unfortunately. I hope you find what you are looking for honey! Good luck and God Bless you!
2006-10-02 16:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion might want to be to distract him in besides accessible. attempt explaining again that it develop into individual time that could no longer some thing which could be suggested and by no skill repeated. and then take him out, purchase him some thing, some thing, to take his options off of it. good luck!
2016-12-04 03:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by fechter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it seem like it's always the nice looking married guy that hit on you.....I'm 34 and have the same problem..........
2006-10-02 16:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are not all like that.
2006-10-02 16:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by ouwx104 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's a hint.
STOP DATING LOSERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 16:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋