She is just interested in watching too much of tv in her free time. Its very tough to motivate her. She has been bit of a slow learner all her life due to a childhood disease, which is now cured. But she gets demotivated very soon and does not have too many friends also. How does one keep her motivation levels up. She also needs very firm handling, otherwise just takes it too easy all the time. I am a working mother and quite worried about her behaviour. Any suggestions? My younger daughter is very independent and any comparison with her or her peer group also makes her very defiant.
2006-10-02 16:30:29 · 13 answers · asked by Aarti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop the comparisons. That only will make her feel inferior. You have two very different children and comparing them will only make your oldest daughter retreat and become angry.
First talk to her and don't ask a lot of "why" questions. Ask her the "how" questions, How can we...How can I help you...How do you feel...simplistic but it can help.
I also suggest you keep a "to do" list for your daughter(s). It could have homework time, or chore time, or even fun activities.
Keeping a teenagers mind focused can be aggravating, so try not to loose your temper at this time. Maybe you need to make one on one time with her, if it's helping with homework or chores (I know that's the last thing you want to do after working all day) but she's your child and she's worth it.
If these things don't work maybe she needs more intervention and a counselor could help.
Teenagers go through such a horrible time and when one problem is solved a new one arises. It's maddening, so hang in there.
Good luck to you and your daughters.
2006-10-02 16:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 15 year old step daughetr is the same way, she is failing in school, over weight, will not make friends or anything else. Her mother finally after much conflict agreed to take her to see a councelor and she was diagnosed as depressed she has since started getting the help she needs and is slowly becoming more motivated and cares a little more. If your daughter is having problems at school take the tv away and tell her you want to help her and try to get her to open up, don't compare her to her sister as no two kids are alike and doing so will cause her to rebell even more. Being a teenager is a difficult time in the best of circumstances but even harder if there are problems. Be patient and understanding, see what she might like to try to do and get her into counceling.
2006-10-02 16:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try looking at what type of tv she is watching. It may be that she is trying to find an escape through the people on tv. Try finding something that you could do together. I always enjoyed going to this place where you can paint pottery. Try to find something that she can do and accomplish in a short amount of time so she will not get frustrated. If that doesn't work try getting her to read more books. They have the same kind of stories but it takes her imagination more. Oh and I also got off tv by starting to get into photography and scrapbooking so those are some ideas too. Don't worry too much I used watch tv all the time when I was a teenager and I've grown out of it and so will she.
2006-10-02 16:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be prompted to take up any profession of her desire. Let her make her own choices. Certainly it does not mean that you should not pour in your views. There are some courses like painting, fashion designing, home science, computers, etc. It has been my experience that children who are not good at studies or are not interested are very good at creative professions. Try to find out in consultation with her and see the difference.
2006-10-02 21:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to start her day with Yoga Class or Aerobics class. That would make her more active and fresh. Get her entire body check-up done. Fatigueness like the one your daughter is suffering from, has many varied reasons such as anaemia and hormone imbalance like thyroid and oestrogen etc.
2006-10-02 20:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a pet would help her self esteem. The outside of a dog is good for the inside of a man. Maybe she could become involved in pet rescue of some sort.
2006-10-02 16:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by hoodoowoman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds depressed. Keep open and clear communication line between the two of you. Think about therapy as well...she may have emotions trapped inside that are hindering her from thinking clearly and being productive
2006-10-02 16:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by jejenkins78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep telling her about the results for not studying in these years.
whenever u r free sit with her and motivate her . i know its quiet hard but make it as a practise which is to be done every day.u will yourself see a visible difference in her i am sure .
2006-10-02 16:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by maddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good partner who can look after her well and know her feeling and act accordingly. Hope when she becomes a mother everything will be alright.
2006-10-02 21:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by ans_1949 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋