well so my g.f told me that all things she said to me were fake, such as the i love you and her feelings for me. We have been dating for nine months and well she said she only stays with me to make me happy, so i did what i had to broke up with her. I wrote a note to her however saying things. Not mean by all means. but just my feelings and she cried. and i thought well maybe she does like me but come to find out she dont, and wants us to be friends, but i tried explaning that that does not happen overnight, and so i am hurt and i really dont know where to go so plz help thanks !
2006-10-02 16:16:23 · 18 answers · asked by Corey132 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think all the things she said to you are fake. She is just trying to purposely hurt your feelings, maybe so you don't hurt hers first.
2006-10-02 16:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to put this one down. You had a relationship and it now sounds like it's over. Even though she may not have loved you, it sounds like she cared for you. This is experience. You can only improve yourself from this lesson.
Sometimes when you break up you cannot be friends. Sometimes it's just not meant to be. Instead try being kind and think of the person you once cared for. You don't have to be friends but you don't have to be mean spirited either. Just call it a draw. Good luck to you and I know you will find someone new.
2006-10-02 16:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i've kinda been in your situation but i'm a chick (my boyfriend hooked up with my best friend in front of me at a party and blamed it on being drunk. i dont talk to either of them anymore so yeah :P) so it could be a little different :S okay.. so telling her what you feel atm isn't going to do much good. dont rush into a hasty decision just give yourself time!!. this decision isn't the easiest to make, with time you will make the decision without knowing it. explaining to her that "its not goint to happen overnight" was a really good thing to do, i dont know if she undertstands how hurt you are. and i dont know this girl so i cant exactly judge. could there be a possiblity that she just said all those cruel things to be cool? or did she actually mean it? i mean girls cry about anythings really. depending if it was a 2 second cry or a weekender would help you to make the decision. dont get pressurised mate! hang in there and let time tell.
2006-10-02 16:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be friends with her! It's better to just move on and stop having anything to do with her. She's probably only acting this way because she misses the attention you would give her, not because she actually likes you. I know because I have been there before. Please don't let her hurt you more than she already has. You'll find a great girl that will love you for all the things you do for her. Don't settle for a girl who can't get it together.
2006-10-02 16:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she don't love you, then she don't. You can't make someone love you no matter how hard you might try. You have to get over it and move on. There are plenty of other girls out there waiting for you. Don't be with someone that doesn't care about you. If she doesn't by now, then she never will. Just move on the best you know how. It will be hard at first, but as time goes by, it gets easier. I wish the best for you.
2006-10-02 16:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the other direction and run! You don't need this drama.....she is searching for a different type of attention and she knows you like her so much that when it strikes her fancy or gets over her "other"crush you will be there..
Be assertive and independent. Tell her to go away, you've moved on and will find happiness with someone who doesn't lie and who pretends....
wishing you luck!
2006-10-02 16:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by TexasKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I getting this right, that yr g.f. told u that everything she said to u was not her genuine feelings? Is that right? If that's the case, why would u want to b with someone who doesn't show their true, positive feelings for you?
There's other fish in the sea.!
2006-10-02 16:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although this is probably not the answer you are looking for, it's really the only one there is. Time will heal you and nothing else. Everyone has been there and everyone gets through it. Just try to get involved in group activities to keep your mind off of her and before you know it, another young lady will catch your eye...Best of luck ;o)
2006-10-02 16:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she told you all of that and it was a lie then she must be kinda mean. But in retrospect if she did it just to make you happy then she is just trying not to hurt you. This has hapened to me before but in a different way. He was w/ me to make me feel bad. He hates me actually. What you should do is just try to be her friend but if you can't then camly tell her that. Good luck with that!
2006-10-02 16:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Bellatrix/Jimmypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to have bad times. Move on. Theres a plenty of fish out in sea.
2006-10-02 16:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mattman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋