I am trying to grow my daughter's bangs out and a few months ago she went to stay the night at my cousin's and she cut her bangs! I was rather upset. So I started all over again and just yesterday, my step-mom cut them while I was at work! Nobody is asking my permission. Do I have the right to be upset? What would you do? How to stop it from happening again?
2006-10-02 16:13:48 · 41 answers · asked by Goldylocks 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she's almost 3.
2006-10-02 16:20:05 · update #1
wow thanks everyone for your answers! How am I going to choose a best answer?
2006-10-03 07:33:20 · update #2
YES YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE UPSET!!! This is your child and until the child is 18 then you have the say so in what is done to this child. You just need to make it clear to your whole family that no one is to cut her hair...tell them nicely...if they argue or do it again then be ugly about it!
2006-10-02 16:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset if I were you, but I think the best way to approach this is to let them know that you realize they had the best intentions in mind, and even though you appreciate their good gesture, mention that they may not be aware you have been trying to grow her bangs out. Once they have been told, there should be no more room for such error.... If it happens again, take a stand.... This is your child, and It is a privilege for anyone to spend time with her.... You might have to find other sitters until her hair is the way you want it.... another thought, depending upon her age, maybe give her a little barrette or cute pig tail like Pebbles Flinstone.... If you match her outfit to the hair tie... they might be distracted by the cuteness of it and leave her hair alone! Good luck!
2006-10-02 16:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do these people actually know that you are trying to grow the bangs out? Maybe they think that you just havent had time to get your daughters hair cut, and they want to get it out of her eyes. I would hope that they aren't doing it intentionally.
I would let them both know that you would have preferred them not cut her hair because you were trying to grow it out. The next time you leave her with someone I would just say " I know her bangs look a little ragged right now, but I am trying to grow them out, so if you want to you can put a head band on her to keep them out of her eyes."
2006-10-02 16:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one has a right to cut your childs hair without your permission. Just make it a point to let everyone know you are growing her hair out. My daughters hair has never been touched and I would freak if anyone cut her hair. I would go crazy. That would be the last time they had her over for a long time.
2006-10-02 16:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by tabbikat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't even explain how upset I would be if people started cutting my childs hair- especially without asking me. I would outright ask them why they did that. Talk with your daughter and tell her to make sure to throw a fit if anybody tries to cut her hair unless you are their with her. Just as an example, I have it in my 4 year olds head since she was 2 1/2 years old not to let anybody call her Mar- I hate that. She tells people "Thats not my name." Maybe your taughter can do the same.
2006-10-02 16:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by kelliemag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's odd that people are randomly cutting her bangs. I wonder if she's asking them to do it. Maybe she likes them. If she does like them, let her keep them. They're just bangs and if they make her happy, it's not really a big issue. Besides, there's nothing wrong with some self-expression.
If she isn't asking them, then just let people know that you're trying to grow them out. If they know that, then they won't cut her hair. They probably think they're helping.
2006-10-02 16:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES u definately have a right to be upset. This is your daughter! But before you get too too upset understand that they most likely not doing this on purpose, they probably think they're helping out. Just tell them that you're trying to grow her bangs out and that you'd realllllly appreciate it if they asked before taking such matters into their own hands
2006-10-02 16:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by Diverse Insanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have all the rights in the world to decide how your daughter's hair should be. She's only 2, and you should make those choices. If you drop your kid off with someone, tell them to call you if they want to "change" anything about your kid, and that you will notice that you have done something without your permission.
2006-10-02 16:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the next time she's alone spending time with them you should barrette her bangs to the sides. My mom was always afraid that my daughter's growing bangs were going to hinder her eyesight, so I used the barrettes and she never had an issue with my girl's bangs again.
I hope this helps. Good luck! :-)
2006-10-02 16:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by bettywitdabigbooty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your daughter ask for them to be cut? My kid's been trying to grow out her bangs for 5 years, but she refuses to wear a barrette so they hang in her face, and eventually she asks for them to be cut.
Just tell them to not cut her bangs-- maybe you should say it everytime you leave her with a sitter.
2006-10-02 16:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋