gives whole new meaning to the phrase "terrible twos." she throws fits and will throw herself down on the floor and kick and scream. she talks back and is very sassy and stubborn. i have tried time out, putting her in the corner, talking with her about the right way to get what you want, ignoring her, and on ocassion spanking. nothing is working. any suggestions???
2006-10-02 16:01:26 · 13 answers · asked by idabell27 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell her you can't see or hear her when she is throwing a fit. Ignore her when she starts, even walking over her as she thrashes on the floor. As soon as she lets up, say "Oh there you are, you were throwing a fit, weren't you? You know I can't see you when you are naughty." A tantrum is about attention, and by taking away her ability to have your attention while she's in a fit, you also take away her control of the situation...
2006-10-02 16:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Angela M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably a very intelligent child. She is obviously trying to see how far she can push your buttons. She is fighting for control. You cannot reason with a 2 year old.
I have raised 4 children. The oldest used to throw himself on the floor and bang his head. I just let him. He soon learned that it not only hurt but no one was going to pay any attention to him. That cured the problem.
Learn to tell your child NO. If she asks for a reason give her one. One of the worst things you can do is give in every time to a child's whims. Be sure she knows you are the parent.
You should think about praising the good that she does. For example, when she is quietly playing say, "I really like the way you are playing and being such a good girl." You are reinforcing a desired behavior. Never praise bad behavior i.e. buy the toy she is screaming for.
Good luck
2006-10-02 16:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the saying, "this too shall pass". It is true in this case. I found ignoring my child during those times to be the best thing. There is no tried and true answer. What works for child A will never work for child B and vice versa. She is too young to fully understand whats going on as far as being able to reason with her. I wound up using a combination of things: spanking, time-out, and taking away toys/privileges. It eventually worked itself out. Just don't give in and placate her. She has to learn boundaries and correct behavior. Be consistent and follow through with any "threats". Good luck.
2006-10-02 16:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
main thing is realize this is a "TESTING TIME" if they throw a tantrum and you give in ... then they win.. you must not let them win.. like suppose you go out and the kid wants a toy or a certain thing to eat/buy and you have said "NO" and the kid starts a small fit - stand firm with your NO... the fit escalates and becomes a full blown tantrum... DO NOT GIVE IN.. as soon as you give in - you have rewarded the negative behavior and it will continue every time...
each situation must be handled differently - sometimes spanking is correct.. sometimes time outs.. sometimes taking stuff away ... but most of all NEVER NEVER give in.. it will get better.. but if you give in and take the easy way out you will pay for it later when they are teenagers
2006-10-02 17:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to test different methods to see what works best for her, all children are different. If she can tell a little bit that she is wearing you down and that after a while she eventually gets what she wants it's going to get worse. You have to be firm and let her know it will not be tolerated and when she is good... reward her. She has to see that there is a difference if she doesn't act up.
Also, you have to see where it is stemming from. Many kids act out in some way what they see.
Stay firm, consistent, but CALM... She is testing how far she can go with you.
2006-10-02 16:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by hyhonline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup! You're on the right track. Just remember to be consistant and stick to your guns. If you say she can't have or do something if she does something wrong don't give in. Remember...people only do the things they do because they can.
Another thought is that maybe she just wants attention. And any attention, even bad attention may satisfy her need for that. Remember to tell her she's being good and give her praise for that too. Too often we only pay attention to negative behavior so those seeking attention learn to get the attention they need by acting out.
Keep going and don't give up...or in!!!
Good luck!
2006-10-02 16:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Gingersnap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is not quite as bad but pretty close. She also likes to leave a path of destruction wherever she goes.Unfortunately I have no solution but to let her grow out of it. If you come up with any good ideas please share but for now just try to be patient. If she becomes too much to handle just let her go in her room and have her temper tantrum, walk away and try to stay calm. Make sure to praise her when she does something good, too. That seems to help at least a little bit. Good Luck!
2006-10-02 16:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by edlauren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you are the fear factor in the house, and that if she gets out of line you will get her back in line.
If u need more advice read Don't Make a Black Woman take off her earings by Tyler Perry or Rent a madea play
2006-10-02 16:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by A train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stacy is right.It's hard,real hard at times but there is light at the end of the tunnel.My girl is 4 now and we have a whole new set of issues.All you can do is take one day at a time and count each blessing one by one.
2006-10-02 16:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by alexff08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this answer will frustrate you, but it is the only honest answer: keep on doing all of those things. In time, you'll see a change.
Hang in there, you'll make it through this.
2006-10-02 16:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by sm2f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋