There's this guy I was dating up until an hour ago or so.
He's the only in-person guy I've dated, and I think it's the same for him. Pretty sure of it.
We really love each other, and we want to have a family together. We've been dating for a year.
Thing is that I realized I've been ruining his life. Really badly ruining his life. I don't do drugs or cheat on him or hit him or anything like that... I just have a lot of emotional problems and physical problems... (asthma, anemia, hypoglycemia, scoliosis)
I really wanted to stay with him, deep down... but... I want him to be happy more than anything. I'd give up my dream, mine and his relationship, and -- should I ever need to -- my life for his happiness.
... he wants us to be together. But I don't want to keep ruining his life. I know I give him a lot of problems.
... should I stay broken up with him? Or date him again?
2006-10-02 15:50:22 · 13 answers · asked by Lady Myrkr 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you let him worry about his family ? If you two love each other and are good to each other ... all the other stuff doesn't matter. Love is precious. Call him .. talk to him. Good Luck ! :)
2006-10-02 15:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the physical problems you have should not really effect your boyfriend. Unless he is asking you to run marathons with him, why should they?
Second, every woman has emotional problems. No matter what yours are a loving partner should be understanding and caring. I feel that most girls are "crazy" in some way. It is hard to grow up as a woman; there are many hazards in our world and young girls are exploited every day. If he thinks you are too much to handle then you are better off without him.
Ask yourself why you are so willing to give YOUR LIFE for this guy and if he would do the same for you. You deserve good things too; it's NOT all about him.
2006-10-02 22:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by mollymolls 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy, this is a tough one. I hope anything I say will not make you upset. It is very rare to find someone to stand by you no matter what your problems are. Physically or mentally. The physical problems you mentioned are out of your control. People live their lives with much worse ailments. If you are doing things to hurt yourself, that would be different. I guess I am confused. Would you break up with him if he were the one with all the physical problems? Once you answer THAT question I think you can answer THIS question. I wish you luck.
2006-10-02 22:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by All This and Brains Too! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl. I broke up with my boyfriend because I had emotional problems that were too much for him to handle but he turned out to be a douche to me and hurt me when i was down. If your guys like this, forget him. But if you love him, dont let anything get in the way. You only live once.
2006-10-02 23:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by theblonchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me like you have a low self worth. He on the other hand loves you enough to want to start a family with you. Why not assume that you are not ruining his life and that you are making his life complete. That seems to me to be the way he sees you. If you love him, stay with him.
2006-10-02 22:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by moose_skinner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if that is the reason that your breaking up with him then ask yourself this.." am i allowed to be happy with anyone with these amount of problem?" the answer is obviously YES... you cant break up with him because you "think" you're ruinning his life... thats up to him whether he wants to be with you or not... and the fact that he didnt break up with you... you broke up with him... obviously means that he is atleast opened to giving it a try... who knows... he might surprise you.
the thing is that you need to give him a chance first.. and it sounds like your the one that has a low self esteem about this...sorry but true...
2006-10-02 23:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by the guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only find love truly once in your life let your heart lead you he knows you have ailments and he still loves you what is your problem girl go get your man and hang on cuz they way you are talking you may not meet any other guy wake up
2006-10-02 23:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by sexyeyes42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go see a therapist to deal with your low self esteem. Your problems arent that unusual and you are being overly dramatic and making him miserable and yourself miserable with a needless breakup for no good reason.
2006-10-02 22:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him the reason you broke up with him? What he tells you might answer a lot of your questions. He apparently does not care up those things. Give it a go.
2006-10-02 22:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by rikki105 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel... and that you don't want him to be with you out of pitty or just to not hurt your feelings etc. And see what he says and go from there. If he really loves you I thik you should stay together.
2006-10-02 22:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋